How do Skids change with age?
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My SS is 2 1/2 years old. I've been in his life since he was 1. We have a close relationship as he loves myself, BM, and BD. We all play important roles in his life. My question to anyone out there that has experience with younger SS as they grow into adolescents, teenagers, and so on is what can I expect. Will his views about me change or not so much since I have been involved so early in his life. Will he be more aware of how unreasonable BD is? Any advice and experiences are welcome!
It depends on the
It depends on the relationship that you have with the BM. If she bad mouths you it changes drastically.
Ditto! If you have a
Ditto! If you have a resentful, nasty, vindictive PASinator BM in the picture it doesn't matter how young the child is when you first are in his life.
Prince Hygiene (PASed out SS stb 9) was a toddler when I was in his life. The instant he became aware of body language and speech, he suddenly acted nasty toward me and gave me hate stares per the BM (the Behemoth)
I met ss when he was 1. We
I met ss when he was 1. We became a lovely blended family when he was 2-he loved me, my dh, his bm, his stepfather as well as my two kids who were 2 and 1. We were very close as my dh had custody and I was typically the primary caregiver.
He's 13 now. He hates me. He now lives with his grandparents 10 mintues away. He doesnt even visit. He attends a school 30 minutes away so he did nto have to go to the same school as my children. Last time I saw him was in Walmart. He doesnt call or have any sort of contact with anyone in our family at this point (including my dh).
So, yeah, I'd say things can change.
Kind of the same story here.
Kind of the same story here. When I first arrived on the scene, I had a pretty good relationship with SD17. As the years went by, her "perfect" bio-daddy's PAS campaign really took its toll, and he managed to turn her completely against me. Also, throughout the years, my DW has espoused the "friend" parent model, and has granted SD17 "adult spousal status." This has truly emboldened SD17, and she treats me horribly, knowing there will be no consequences.
I am counting down the days until SD17 is out of high school, and out of our lives. I have had VERY pointed discussions with DW, and there is no way on earth that SD17 will be sticking around after high school. If necessary we will rent our house out so that SD17 can't stay there (I travel for work 70% of the year, and DW could potentially travel with me at that point).
Now I must say, my BF oldest
Now I must say, my BF oldest daughter (16) is very sweet, helpful and caring person. She loves spending time with me and her dad. Then she gets what she wanted and we don't see or hear from her for another 3-4 months. Christmas is coming, I am certain her loving butt will be here every weekend til after the holidays.
NEWS FLASH
That $200.00 worth of make up I got you for Xmas last year from Ulta....that you threw away.... was the last nice thing I get you....
I may have just got lucky,
I may have just got lucky, but as my SS13 grew and matured, we've become closer, and he really relies on me....BUT a big part of that is his BM is a worthless piece of $*($ and has not interest in him since he was born.