When BM hates you for no reason
So my SD 7 has never been in any activities outside of school except what I came along and enrolled her in. She is not exposed to ANYTHING outside of the walls of her BM's house, and frankly my DH didn't do any better exposing her to anything. So...long story short, I thought it would be a good idea to have her join Girl Scouts as a Brownie. She was excited, I was excited, my husband approved, but did BM? I'll give you one guess. She refuses to let her join because she knows I'll have to go with her to some of the activities and she is territorial; has been since DH and I got married and the kids started calling me Mom. I am so furious. I went through all this trouble to try and get her in a slot because girl scouts was full in our area, and once I get her all squared away, BM changes her mind and decides maybe we can do it next year. What bothers me is, she'll never admit that she is doing this just to make sure I do not have a relationship with her daughter. I am not in competition with her, never have been, never did anything to make her feel like that. Yet she's always got this competition going in her mind. Such a disappointment that my SD will miss out on even more experiences that you should get to have as a little girl. What a shame.
I'm in the same boat with my
I'm in the same boat with my SD17's "perfect" bio-daddy. In the nearly 15 years I have been married to my DW, he has never once spoken to me (although he has cursed in my general direction a few times). Right from the get-go, he made it clear that he hated my guts, and that we would never work together to raise SD17. I guess he didn't need a reason to hate me. Other than the fact that I exisited, and was marrying his ex-wife.
Yep, our BM has hated me from
Yep, our BM has hated me from the start. No reason other than I am with her ex. I did not split them up - have shown nil inclination to "muscle in" on her daughters - she has behaved like a psycho from the beginning, and the sad thing is, I would have been most happy to have a civil relationship with her for her daughters' benefit.
I am sorry about your little SD, but when she is a bit older, perhaps you can take the role of encouraging her to try things outside the home - obviously no-one else is going to do it, poor girl.