Jumping Mother-of-the-bride.
You have been so helpful, I would like some input on another matter.
My DH's daughter got married this past Sunday. The wedding was obviously paid for and planned (although poorly) by the my DH's EX and her friends. It was a beautiful location and nice outdoor wedding though. The weather decided to cooperate at least. The reception was in a very nice country club hall.
I am babbling, sorry....
Anyway, the wedding went well, they had their photographs taken, and then the wedding party came in and sat down.
Instead of the customary speech and first toast being made by the Best Man (the grooms brother) - the speech and first toast was made by my DH's EX! She stood behind her daughter, and said "Welcome to the wedding of MY daughter and her new husband "M". We hope you have a good time." You could tell people were finding this strange, but she obviously didn't see anything wrong with it.
Then later, after the father-daughter dance, and everyone else was asked to dance, my DH and I went up with others to the dance floor. We were there a very little while (if I say so myself, we do dance well together) before the EX came rushing up (she had no escort or date) and alone began to jump up and down on the dance floor to the music. It was a disco beat song. Here is this short 60 year old slightly stout woman, in her elegant long formal gown and heals jumping up and down on the dance floor. She didn't stop at one dance, she kept it up dance after dance. :O
After she finished dancing, she kept walking around talking to everyone, and making a BIG production about it. There had been no receiving line, so the bride and groom were going around thanking everyone for coming to the wedding, but the EX felt she had to follow right behind them and get in on the act. Make it known how she was the power and money behind the wedding having happened.
My question is, has anyone else had to deal with such a strange EX? We joke about it, and try to guess what she will come up with next, so we don't let it get to us - too much. She is the one making a fool of herself, not us. We just wonder what she will do at her son's wedding this next spring. Even though she isn't the one putting on the wedding, we know that somehow she will insert herself into it somehow, and do something to make a scene, and draw attention to herself. 
What is your story about dealing with a crazy EX?
Not-the-mom - I see you have
Not-the-mom - I see you have only just joined Steptalk, so, welcome! If you read more of the posts, you will find that 90% of us have to deal with crazy ex wives. Some of the stories would make your hair curl. I have many of my own, but won't get into relating them here otherwise my post would take hours to read. Yours at least sounds quite funny - but I hope the happy couple weren't too embarassed by her antics.
Unfortunately - or
Unfortunately - or fortunately - they didn't seem to notice. Their cluelessness is a source of concern for my DH, but then again, maybe it is for their good. Too soon to tell.
I will have to read some others posts to see what you are saying.
Maybe I should ask if there are any FUNNY stories others have about their skids parent? Hopefully, there are some funny stories -
not all horror stories.
Or enough time has gone by so that the horror stories have become humor stories, because enough time has gone by. I haven't told the drama/horror stories about my DH's sister and nieces. They are nuts! I don't think this is the place to tell about them.
I hope it is true that time heals, because I need to know that I will be able to look back at the drama and laugh. It can happen doesn't it? :?
OH yes, I have a similar
OH yes, I have a similar funny story regarding the 1st wedding of my second oldest SD. She had her mother walk her down the aisle while her Dad sat in the 2nd row pew of the church. Lots of people were laughing at them because she was making an exaggerated walk and skipping with her daughter down the aisle. The ex's Father said under his breath what the he-- is this all about her Dad's right here able to walk her down the aisle. The SD was very angry at her Dad for remarrying and she said she wanted her Mom to give her away since it was her Mom that raised her blah, blah, blah..... It was really ridiculous and we had several people come up to us at the reception and ask us what that was all about. Even SD siblings thought it was disresptful and rude which is the entire reason they did it. The ex went on to be loud and obnoxious and drawing attention to herself throughout the rest of the wedding and reception. She wasn't allowed to be involved in my SS's wedding but she still tried to steal the thunder by being overdramatic and loud. I'm so thankful all the Skids are married (one now divorced) so we don't have to deal with anymore wedding theatrics. If the divorced SD gets married I won't being attending since I have disengaged from them all. Best thing I've ever done for myself!!
HAHAHAHA!~ I thought we were
HAHAHAHA!~
I thought we were the only family that had the BM walk her oldest daughter down the isle. I'll one-up you. BM and OSD REFUSED to even invite my DH to the wedding.
I would have loved to been the fly-on-the-wall though. Our BM is an attention-whore too. She was telling all our relatives that she "didn't know where DH was......". Yea, RIGHT. BM is too stupid to realize that our (DH's side) family knows what a psycho-nut-job she is, and they knew that DH was not included or invited on purpose.
Geez, how very mature not
Geez, how very mature not inviting DH to wedding. It is so funny how BMs think they are so smart and clever when they pull crap like this but everyone and I mean everyone knows exactly what they are doing and they are the ones that look stupid and foolish!!
After all the stress and
After all the stress and sometimes tears that go into planning a wedding, I say kudos to any parent who is able to kick back and enjoy themself on the big day. I hope I'm still able to dance the night away when I'm 60.
The problem is, she was doing
The problem is, she was doing it for the wrong reasons. It was very obvious, and sad.
I am not sure how stressful the wedding planning was, they hired a wedding planner/coordinator. Hopefully that helped relieve the stress. We offered to help, but where to turned down.
My DH and I keep laughtin
My DH and I keep laughtin about his EX jumping up and down song after song after song. Her arms were up over her head and she was surrounded by the bridesmaids. They were wearing strapless gowns and several of them were VERY buxom. The dresses weren't altered to fit them close enough so there were a few scary moments there when the bridesmaids (with their arms up over their heads) were about to "spill over the top" of their dresses. :jawdrop:
We will never forget the day - for many reasons.
We think we figured out why an inexperienced person was hired to be the wedding consultant/planner/coordinator. She was easy for my DH's EX to control! If they had hired a PROFESSIONAL, she would have had to contend with someone who might tell her "No, that isn't appropriate." This way, the EX has TOTAL control over what happened and when. There was no one there to control the BEAST. :O
This young man is in for a wild ride. He is shy, and totally enamured with his new wife. She can do no wrong. All he did was follow his new wife around like a puppy. His MIL taking up the rear. He was in the "sandwich" position much of the evening. One clueless man, between two slices of control freaks.