I am getting married in 13 days. This past Jan. my future SS moved in with us because BM couldn't handle him. We moved him here to try to improve his life and to help him because he has "anger issues". I was visiting with my BS, and my BD (they live with us) also, and my son told me that when SS and BS are together, if SS doesn't get his way he will sometimes punch my son in the arm, or call him names. This makes me FURIOUS, as I have never liked him to begin with. I have many reasons why I can't stand this kid, he doesn't appreciate anything I do for him, he is a messy slob around here, he has a foul mouth, and is very manipulative with his parents and I can see right through the punk. Another reason why I agreeed to have the brat come live with us is because it would give my fiance almost a $1,000 dollar increase in our household income, and this will enable for us to find a home, and provides more in our household.

However, I feel so sad for my son having to deal with this and on top of being furious I confroted the punk, he says that all kids punch each other and that my son is a "tattle tell". Even though I was fuming inside I remained "CALM" and was telling him that I didn't want him to do that to my son, just as if my son were doing that I wouldn't tolerate that either. So all along I am talking and so he is getting more angry, so then he calls my son a "FAGGET" I said first of all my son isn't a "fagget" and if your calling my son that then your a fagget also, SS blew up at me then and said "I'M NOT A FAGGET, YOUR A FAGGET YOU FUCKING BITCH" I was like whatever you can call me names all you want but I wont tolerate you doing this in my home, and your words don't hurt any of us, whatever names you call people-then you must be talking about yourself! BD is trying to tell his BS to stop calling me names and the punk doesn't listen, my fiance also telling me to "stop" and "lets go upstairs" so the punk can cool off because my fiance knows that his son is just has problems.

This is kid is 14 years old (4 days older) than my BS and SS just thinks since he is stronger (muscle) wise that he can control my son, bottom line is..... he's a "BULLIE" so does anyone have any advice on how to handle this punk, at least until he's 18 and I can kick his ass out of my home...

He can't go back to his BM because we just signed and completed custody to be changed to here, so basically since we are stuck with this un-ruly child how am I to handle him calling me these awful names in front of my children?? My own kids have never called me these names! and I don't like them witnessing SS calling me or them names either. We can't call the police, but I just don't know what to do since all of us are "stuck" with the punk....

Oh one other thing, he has a pocket knife that he carries in his pocket and last week, twice he was "playing" around or at least my daughter felt like he was "playing" anyway he put the knife up close to her neck. I told him not to do this anymore, and then a couple of days ago he shot my son with his bb gun and so I asked my son why did SS do this to you?? and he said because SS said to my BS that he "ditched him" and didn't wait for SS to come outside. I am so mad at this kid.

Also is it legite to cancel my wedding plans with the man I am in love with for this punk??? I have been waiting 5 years to marry my fiance he is a good man to my kids and I.