Step daughterS!!!! From HELL!
My life is like sooooo many of yours its unreal the similarities all of us have.I'm new to this site actually I have been reading post on here for a couple weeks now and I decided to post my daily life on here also.LIFE WITH A HYPOCRITE DAD AND 2 BADASS,MANIPULATIVE BEASTS!
A little background, me and my fiance have been living together for about 2 years I have 1 son from a previous marriage (2 years old) he has 2 daughters from a previous marriage (14 and 7) and we have an 9 month old together.
The 14 year old lives here full time, her worthless pc of crap mother pays no child support what so ever. The 7 year old lives here 50/50 and my 5 year old son lives here 50/50.
Now, his 2 kids are the most disgusting, ungrateful,manipulative, bratty kids I have ever been around in my life. The 14 year old has announced that she is now a lesbian, she stays the night with and has her girlfriend stay the night at our house with dads approval, he sees nothing wrong with it, all she has to do is keep asking 2 to 3 times a day for a few days and the answer is yes, so basically the modow around this household with HIS 2 kids is keep asking and you can have what you want doesn't matter what it is, going some where while grounded, buying shit, phone while grounded, hair straightener that's been left plugged in at least 15 times and our house burnt down, candy, 4th and 5th meals everyday, etc just keep asking and his answer will be yes, unless its my son. My son is basically the outcast of the family and has been for a long while now, everything that goes on here revolves around the 2 sd's bedtime, what's for dinner, things we go do together, MONEY. I mean its a joke and me and fiance fight every single time the kids are all her. The 7 year old is a mass manipulator big time, she lies like there's no tomorrow even cost us 2000 dollars for one of them lies! I have just had enough of them, I don't even try to be nice anymore, I find myself having to write down everything his kids do and the punishment which is nothing EVER and then write down what my son does and his punishment which is always getting yelled at, cussed at, threatened to get his ass beat, etc just the other night for instance my fiance made stir fry, crab, and shrimp for dinner well of coarse his kids liked it, hell they are both fat asses who can't wait for there next meal and that's no joke! Well anyway my son said I don't like shrimp, fiance said SHUT UP your eating it I don't wanna hear it I'm tired of the I don't like shit so shut up and eat, well he sat there choked on a pc of shrimp because he couldn't eat it, couldn't swallow it and was being yelled at to swallow it for literally 30 damn minutes. Well last night, this is an example of his hypocrite behavior, his brat 7 year old sat at the table gargled down a peanut butter sandwich and scraped off the crackers and cheese I put on her chili and just ate that part I said ohhhhh no you will eat that chili your no different then anyone else here now eat it! Well she sits there for about 2 minutes fiance goes in there and says oh you don't like it, ok just don't ask for ice cream k! I was flipping floored I said excuse me I just told her she's eating it!! He just shrugged his shoulders and told me to shut up he wasn't in the mood! Gosh I was sooooo pissed I could have spit fire I was so mad.everytime she doesn't like something its ohhhhh god I don't feel good, I'm full and its always ok well its ok u don't have to eat. I'm soooo sick of the shit. She is constantly gropping all over my fiance, runs and strattles him when he gets home, constantly everytime she fucks up something first thing is oh I love you, its pathetic she is a true manipulator. NOW the 14 year old she is the nastiest of the nasties let me tell ya she throws bloody pads on the bathroom floor, lies, steals, lesbian, you name it she's it! She is constantly making stuff up I know in hopes I will leave and I think I'm about to pull her to the side and say let me tell you something brat I'm not going anywhere so get over it!
My fiance every time I tell him something they have done he just ignores it, doesn't say a word but will fight with me on a daily basis about them instead of just doing something about there asses.
The 14 year old he so called grounded the other day lol yeah right that was a joke 2 hours later he gave her the cell phone back and said and I quote "don't talk on the phone only text" WHAT??!! U have got to be kidding me that's how grounded she was I swear. This is just a little of my daily life with these lazy kids who do nothing including messes they make, sorry but step momma will not ever clean up shit smears off the top of the toilet from a 14 year old I WILL NOT DO IT! I'm gonna think of more and post in a few but here is a little for now. Thanks for listening guys ii needed to let it out before I choke them.
Sorry, but it sounds like
Sorry, but it sounds like instead of "stepdaughters from hell", you have "FIANCE FROM HELL" kids, and teenagers are ALWAYS going to be manipulative and selfish!!! They will always try to get their way. It is the adults' job to put a stop, set boundaries and all that fun stuff.
Sincerely,
G
"I will die on my feet before I live on my knees"
Oh I forgot to mention,
Oh I forgot to mention, everytime the 14 year old gets in trouble she will cut herself that way she doesn't get in trouble by daddy cuz he doesn't want her to cut herself! The way I feel about it oh well your that stupid enough to cut yourself because you can't walk all over us and do whatever you want then cut yourself I don't care anymore, when she wises up to her dumb behavior which I don't think will ever happen she's the one going to run around with scars all over herself not me so I could care less anymore. The thing is I DO set rules, I DO set boundries they just do not care, they do it anyway, then laugh and smerk at you cuz they no as long as DADDY is around they can do whatever they want! The oldest thinks its funny to draw pictures and threatened to kill the teachers on her homework assignments and then turn them in, dad gets a call from the principal saying she is suspended for a week, guess what she did that week, watched tv, played video games, played outside, ATE, and didn't do anything else, I can't even get her to make her bed, she does absolutely nothing EVER, and another thing that gets me is they both talk like babies, its dada and mama, I even had the 7 year old ask me if I thought she was a good kid I had to walk out of the room before I laughed.
Husband also thinks that its ok for 14 year old bm to not pay support, its ok we will pay for everything, even thinks we are suppose to make up for her mothers lack of buying her stuff and I refuse, I'm not buying perfume every 2 days so she can cover up her non washed clothes everyday since I refuse to touch her laundry the last time I did I literally threw up and my husband has been asking what that wet dog smell is upstairs and I flat out told him it HER she's nasty she wears your deodorant she wears mens boxer briefs she doesn't shower or wash DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT I say or keep her away from my little baby its discusting its gross and I don't want her around my son.
Oh I forgot to mention,
Oh I forgot to mention, everytime the 14 year old gets in trouble she will cut herself that way she doesn't get in trouble by daddy cuz he doesn't want her to cut herself! The way I feel about it oh well your that stupid enough to cut yourself because you can't walk all over us and do whatever you want then cut yourself I don't care anymore, when she wises up to her dumb behavior which I don't think will ever happen she's the one going to run around with scars all over herself not me so I could care less anymore. The thing is I DO set rules, I DO set boundries they just do not care, they do it anyway, then laugh and smerk at you cuz they no as long as DADDY is around they can do whatever they want! The oldest thinks its funny to draw pictures and threatened to kill the teachers on her homework assignments and then turn them in, dad gets a call from the principal saying she is suspended for a week, guess what she did that week, watched tv, played video games, played outside, ATE, and didn't do anything else, I can't even get her to make her bed, she does absolutely nothing EVER, and another thing that gets me is they both talk like babies, its dada and mama, I even had the 7 year old ask me if I thought she was a good kid I had to walk out of the room before I laughed.
Husband also thinks that its ok for 14 year old bm to not pay support, its ok we will pay for everything, even thinks we are suppose to make up for her mothers lack of buying her stuff and I refuse, I'm not buying perfume every 2 days so she can cover up her non washed clothes everyday since I refuse to touch her laundry the last time I did I literally threw up and my husband has been asking what that wet dog smell is upstairs and I flat out told him it HER she's nasty she wears your deodorant she wears mens boxer briefs she doesn't shower or wash DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT I say or keep her away from my little baby its discusting its gross and I don't want her around my son.
I'm seeing a LOT of major
I'm seeing a LOT of major issues here.
1. Your Fiance needs to start supporting you or support himself. If he can't respect you enough to help set boundries and enforce punishments equally, then you need out.
2. His 14 year old... I'm hearing the term lesbian a lot and it makes me think you've fallen into one ofher traps. She wants you to hold it against her that she's lesbian. Your DH is probably just releived that "she won't get pregnant as a teen" If things were better between you and DH, I would encourage you to ask him if she were straight if her boyfriend could sleep over? I doubt it... but to be honest, until things with your DF are resolved it's a pointless and fruitless question.
3. Everything else that you've mentioned ultimately falls back to DF. You and him should in all reality see a counselor. If you can't afford one see a minister, most workplaces offer employee assistance program counseling, take them up on it, first for you as a couple, then for your family. Until he is able to treat you with respect your family issues will be unresolved, and until you are able to present a united front with solid boundries and undeniable consquences for inappropriate actions, nothing will get better. Start with getting him to a counselor.
*hugs* I'd send a bottle of wine if I could!!! Good Luck
Omg you got it dead on!!! I
Omg you got it dead on!!! I mean dead on that is EXACTLY what he said! He said at least she won't get pregnant! The thing that gets me is the parents of this other girl do not know what is going on I keep telling him as a parent don't you think that this girls parents deserve to know that there daughter is staying over here and she is WITH your daughter???!!! I would be furious if I found out another parent was hiding this from me and continuing to let them sleep together and stay over I would be furious! But u are exactly right that was his exact words! But he keeps making fun of my 5 year old son because he plays with his 7 year old a lot he tells me constantly he will be gay he's gay and he is allllll boy, wrestling, fighting, boy toys I think he just cannot stand it that his daughter is so he has to put something on my son to be even
Omg you got it dead on!!! I
Omg you got it dead on!!! I mean dead on that is EXACTLY what he said! He said at least she won't get pregnant! The thing that gets me is the parents of this other girl do not know what is going on I keep telling him as a parent don't you think that this girls parents deserve to know that there daughter is staying over here and she is WITH your daughter???!!! I would be furious if I found out another parent was hiding this from me and continuing to let them sleep together and stay over I would be furious! But u are exactly right that was his exact words! But he keeps making fun of my 5 year old son because he plays with his 7 year old a lot he tells me constantly he will be gay he's gay and he is allllll boy, wrestling, fighting, boy toys I think he just cannot stand it that his daughter is so he has to put something on my son to be even
Yeah, again him taking it
Yeah, again him taking it out on your son is far from ok. Your DF needs to agree to work on you two as a couple and then things with the family have a chance of getting better, and if he won't, run honey!