Older step daughter problems Craves attention/grow up/
I live with my wife and 2 younger stepchildren age 11 and 12.
My other stepdaughter is 28 and she lives in the next street 100 yards from my home with her 2 children aged 6 and 1.The 11 and 12 kids that i live with are fantastic call me dad and everything couldnt of asked for anything more perfect.Problem is the older one is like a little baby aged 28 with 2 kids of her own she constantly craves attention from her mother leaving the other 2 clinging to me even more.My wife sits textin her all day phoning her and constantly agrees to babysit all the time Weekends and during the week.Now ive ended up looking after her kids in the morning and after school while she goes to work....Shes doing me ed in for god sake shes a 28 year old grown women who cant do anythin right,cant make desicions,leans on us all the time always on the phone always knocking on the door always asking to look after her kids grrrrrrr am fed up with her>>>im thinking of leaving but i think it would really hurt the other 2 kids who love me to bits Someone please help me >>>>>.................xxxxxx
Wene me and my wife got 2 gether she was that jealous she got herself pregnant and told everyone at my birthday party my wife was fuming she left the party and it ruined the whole thing....
ive tried but she bites my
ive tried but she bites my head off Really difficult
Sounds like you guys need to
Sounds like you guys need to move a bit further from her. You are too close. Then you have to ask yourself how much you love your wife. If you truly love her, I think you owe it to both of you to try to come to some kind of compromise concerning the girl.
Is the oldest SD married?
no But she was in a
no But she was in a relastionship and it ends and starts as often as i make cups of tea.....Ive just had my head bit off again actually trying to spark the conversation with my wife i think im gona leave for sure
If I may I would suggest
If I may I would suggest couples therapy before you decide to leave. If she would be willing. A therapist would be able to try and help you and your wife set boundaries with your oldest SD. It sounds like someone needs to.
I am sorry for your predicament. I hope you can find a resolution.
Well, if your wife knows you
Well, if your wife knows you are ready to leave over it, she might be more receptive. I know threatening to leave is kind of not fair fighting, but from personal experience, sometimes they just DON'T GET how serious things are and need to be told in a blunt manner. I have said these words to my husband "I don't want for us to be at the point where I file for divorce and you look at me and say 'I didn't know you felt this serious about it', so I'm telling you right now, I feel that this is so serious that we could get divorced over it". I think he got the message.
As previously suggested go
As previously suggested go to a family counselor. In a month or so s/he should be able to move a long way towards solving this or determining that it is insoluable. If there is no progess then you need another counsellor.
If your wife won't go then go alone and hope she joins you.
You will be tremendously impressed over the insight and suggestions someone like that can give.
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Absoulutly great advice
Absoulutly great advice people many thanks....Think im just gona leave after christmas im under 37 years old as far as im concerned im off