My boyfriend and I haven't been dating long, but we knew right away that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. He hasn't spent much time with his kids over the last year because he's been remodeling his house and there is nowhere for his 17 & 15 year olds to stay. Also, because as he says, "they are teenagers, they are busy and have a life so spending time with their dad is not a priority to them". I've been around his kids a few times, but was only introduced as his "friend" even though we'd been dating for a couple months and I'm sure that they "KNOW" we are dating. We also went bowling once with all the kids so they've met too, but only the one time. My dilemma is this: he recently proposed to me... in front of MY kids! But his kids don't know! I refuse to tell my kids to keep the proposal a secret if we are all ever together. But how do we all spend time together now to work on building our relationships? He wants to tell them, but he says he needs to spend more time with them before breaking the news. I understand that, but I think he's not giving them enough credit for what they can handle. I am big on communication with my kids and being honest, while keeping the info. appropriate to their age. He's been divorced for years, but it seems as if he's so busy "protecting" them that he's isolated himself and now they don't even know who he really is... Any ideas, suggestions or advice?