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My husband calls/recieves calls from his 22 year old daughter who is in the army every single day. No special reason, they just want to talk. Is this excessive? How many times does your significant other contact the adult children?
Bad situation.
His kid is in a high risk environment - perhaps they both need reassurances. If its just the number of calls you're questioning and not the content or reason for the calls I'd say don't worry about it.
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uh... being in the army
uh... being in the army doesn't necessarily mean high risk. All she's doing is working in the kithen at a base in Canada. I'm only questioning the content because it's so trivial - I think she's bored, but you'd think she'd have someone else to talk to.
Two tour Infantry combat vet here...
Support is the name of the game. I have had very, very depressing times in the sandboxes of Iraq and elsewhere. I highly doubt it is anything but support. I have been in units that I didn't speak for a week, and damn year a month because I rotated into a unit of a bunch of cops. (love ya guys) This unit was total crap and I didn't WANT to associate with anyone, so I associated with friends and family. She may also see her father as a beacon of strength that she lacks right now, or perhaps someone that keeps her in the present and grounded which is very important. Pulling security on the highways and byways of Iraq I rarely saw Army women, but after serving side by side with them I have every respect for them and see no difference between them and my brothers. With that being said, she MAY be in dangerous territory, I know I was, but also could be behind five tiers of security, relatively safe. Mortars suck. Support him, support her, and be proud of the fact that she is furthering the right for women to receive equal treatment in the Armed Services, something unheard of 25 years ago.
PS. She is a vastly minority female, in a foreign land, with people that don't really like her trying to end her life, and all the while surrounded by thousands of men that haven't gotten laid in a year. I might just call my daddy daily too!!
Sgt. Kevin The Man
US Army Infantry (retired)
Like I said, she's working
Like I said, she's working in a kitchen in Canada. She lives about 20 minutes away from her mother and about 1 hour from her dad. Not exactly a foreign land. She's being kept back from the training she signed up for because she beat up a corporal. So now all she's doing is cashiering in the base kitchen. Not exactly a stressful, depressing place to be.
Yeah it is
Working as a cashier in a kitchen is HARDLY where this woman saw herself when she joined up. I guarantee it!! So yeah, depressing AND she may or may not get along with her fellow mates. Canada can be pretty and harsh at the same time. I tend to agree with other posts. I call my folks one a week, but my little sister does daily. Some people just do call that often.
Hmmm...
Daddy's girl or no (and I am a Daddy's girl), i would say that all depends on how long each talk is. If the grown child is cutting into primary relationship time, it should probably be reduced a little. But I am actually more curious to know why she doesn't call you. Is there little to no bond with your SD? If so, maybe it's time to take a couple of those calls yourself and start working on that bond.
"Blood doesn't matter. Love is the tie that binds..."
I am the Daddy's Girl!
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I call my dad just about every day. He lives about an hour away, and I call to check on him. Granted he has been sick... but he is in great health now, and I still call him every day. That is just the relationship I have with him. My mom lives with me, but when she didn't, I called her every day too. I don't see anything wrong with it. I don't want to have any regrets when it is their time to go. They aren't getting any younger, and neither am I. I can only hope that my kids keep in close contact with me when they are adults.
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So everyone agrees - well almost anyway
Why do you feel anxious about a father and daughter talking? Is the father neglecting something?
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Depends on length of calls
I am in two minds about her calls.... How long are the calls and do they interrupt your time with DH? I feel he has to look and respect you if the calls are taking up alot of time....