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considering my situation I'm prob. not the best person to respond..lol..but thinking neutral..I would be upset..how is your relationship with SS16? If you are close than I would def. want to share that moment with him...at the same time if they only get 3 tickets than it's not really in BM or DH's control..can he maybe find a friend that doesn't need an extra ticket?
"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"
Like crap, but what can you do?
I mean, your DH and his BM should def. go if that's what he wants. SS16 might be willing to let you go instead (they're usually not that into these things at that age anyway). I don't know...my blame would lay with the school. WTH is up with only 3 tickets per student??
Jojo71 I have no idea why
they only sent 3 tickets!!! In a way I really didn't wanna go because I knew BM would be there, but I don't want it to seem as if they are one big happy family and I'm no where around!
But there is no ticket for me so I can't go!
"And this too shall pass..."
I hear ya...
I feel like the third wheel ALL the time. When FH and SD8 were in his best friend's wedding a couple of weekends ago, I almost didn't go because I knew I would feel like this, but I had to because not going would really send the wrong message. Sure enough, the whole time, I felt like I didn't even exist. As I wrote in a previous post, everyone was taking pictures of FH and SD8 all night long, they were dancing, having fun. He and I didn't dance all night until right before we left and didn't get a single picture taken of us together. I am still very bitter about that whole night. If I had known how I was going to feel, I totally would have skipped it.
Yeah Jojo71 i read
your blog about that! I felt your pain! You were trying to put on a brave front and giving out weak smiles like it didn't really bother you and it did! I know I hate to be in that position! very uncomfortable and n ot a good feeling at all!
and the nDH will turn around and ask "What's wrong with you?? :O
"And this too shall pass..."
lol - Were you there???
'Cause that's exactly how it went!
LOL! Silly girl no I wasn't
but again I FELT your pain! I've been in your shoes too many times so I know the deal!
"And this too shall pass..."
We had this once...
SS was in the spelling bee and there were tickets to get in...only three tickets. So ofcourse BM and her H went and my DH. I got to babysit the rest of the bunch. Then come to find out that new Stepdad didnt make it so the third ticket wasnt even used...
It sucks and it only re-inforces the idea that steps dont count and we are not a REAL family.
Sorry to hear about that..
"God grant me the serenity accept the things I cannot change; the strength to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference."
Yep Yep I hear ya'
and I get to stay home. The thing is at 7:30pm and over at 9:30 pm.
BM came over yesterday demanding the tickets!! Dh who is a pack rat with the mail could not find them!
BM has to come back today and pick them up! She is pissed thinking he just didnt want to give her her ticket(s)! Whatever!
"And this too shall pass..."
I won't bother going, even if I am invited
Last year, SS14 invited both FH and I to her school play. She made a big deal about wanting me there so I agreed to go. I'm messed up and it's hard for me to leave the house so it was a big thing for me to drum up the courage and get into the mind-set. But in the interest of "family" harmony and my relationship with the kid, I agreed.
The night before the play, SS14 calls to dis-invite me. She says her mother won't go if I'm there. What a BM BITCH.
Seeing as his kids live 4 hours away, FH asks me if I would please go with him anyway, for company on the drive. Sigh. Okay. So I went. And sat in the car drinking coffee and reading books until the damn thing was over. The kid came to the car to say hi to me after her mother dashed out.
I will no longer accept invitations from these people.
Livid!
I would be SO upset! I understand that sometimes there is limited room for these functions but to limit who can attend a function like this on such an important day in a young person's life is very insensitive!
Exactly..Now it looks as if I don't support the kid!
"And this too shall pass..."
If you want to go
you could ask if one of his friends has an extra ticket they are willing to give you. Alot of schools only give out certain numbers of tickets due to seating space. But when I was in school and we needed extra tickets we would always ask our friends for their unused ones. I hope that helps some!!