You do not want to bash her because that makes you look bad. You just want to be calm and mature, even though bashing her would make your innards feel good, it would hurt the chances of getting child for visitations. You can bring up situations were she has alianated you all and instances of which the childs interest were not even considered. But play it very cool?
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We dealt with a GAL also and ours told us right off the bat that at the end of this, someone would be mad at him. My DH and I went in and spoke more about the things that have hurt the kids and anything she has done to other parties i.e teachers, ect..

I was very candid and let the GAL know that it is not easy for us dealing with her and we don't like it, but we do so FOR THE KIDS. I honestly told him that if I dod not love my DH and my SS's, that I would certaintly not put up with the treatment I recieve from her.

You should NEVER bash the BM to anyone court related or anyone you think could hurt your chances.

That is what we are here for.

Btw, the GAL ended up siding with us.

~THE EXERCISE THAT REALLY CHANGES YOUR LIFE IS WALKING DOWN THE AISLE~

Don't sugarcoat it... tell the GAL what you've experienced, definitely. That's what she wants to know. But be cool and matter-of-fact about it, as if you're reading from a phone book. You know how to play the game.

GOOD: Well, Ms. GAL, I feel that many times the children's mother denies visitation without having a really good reason for doing so and I'm afraid this separation from their father can only be detrimental to the children in the long run. We want them to feel as though they are a part of our family, as well as hers.

BAD: That fucking bitch won't let my husband see his kids. She's a fucking psychopath who doesn't give a shit about anything but money and her own selfish wants. People like her shouldn't reproduce. She's an asshole.

See?! It's that easy! Seriously, you'll do fine. Pretend like you're in a job interview or something like that. Give her the facts, but recite them dispassionately and without malice. You'll do great! Let us know how it goes!

~ Anne ~

"Love, having no geography, knows no boundaries."
(Truman Capote)

You made me laugh so hard with your BAD example!! If you were going to bash her that would be the right thing to say. I'm glad ya'll explained what GAL is. Most of the stuff is pretty obvious, but I had no idea what you were talking about on that one. We need a glossery for us newbies so we know what the heck your talking about. Is DH- divorced husband???