SD is to be here this evening and BM had a message for DH. Something along the lines of "we need to make sure SD is eating healthier foods because she's getting chunky". DH and I had to LOL because 1) SD does eat healthful foods when she's here and 2) SD is too skinny! She's growing rapidly and is tall and thin like DH.

I think BM is going off the fact that she and her mother are abnormally small and SD can wear BM's old t-shirts. I am much thicker than BM and SD has worn my old clothes too- that doesn't mean she's "chunky". Before you ask, BM had said WAY WORSE to SD so I've no doubt she's confronted her about her physical appearance.

It's also worth mentioning that the only "junk" SD eats here is a toaster strudel or frozen waffles for a convenient weekday breakfast (that child is NOT a morning person). Otherwise, she eats rounded meals here. When asked what she eats at BM's (SD is an extremely picky eater) SD says they eat sonic, McDonald's, Freddy's, frozen pizza, and a variety of other processed junk. DH is a picky eater too so he can't stand fast food or frozen junk. None of us drink soda and SD drinks juice and water. She also loves bananas and apples. DH said he just told BM "ok" but what was she getting at? Surely she knows she's contributing to 75-85% of this, right? BM's narcissism is showing- classicly deflecting self involvement and responsibility.

SD regularly does physical activity with us and loves walking our dogs at the park. BM has never taken SD to the park once. At least that's what SD says. I may as well call BM Aergia #2 because that's what she is. Lucky for her she has good genes. Well, smoking has aged her horribly.

It must be a mom thing because I've heard of many women criticizing their daughter's weight but why? SD is at such a fragile age she doesn't need to be ridiculed and told she's "chunky". My SM also told my stepsister that same thing. My Ssis is 5'3" and VERY busty/ curvy. That doesn't mean she's fat!? Plus SM is letting go of herself too so why does she have the right to tell her daughter that? I always tell SD she's beautiful and encourage her to be active and come out of her shell. I braid her hair and practice other cute hairstyles and always make sure she has a fresh mani/ pedi. DH is very outgoing and BM is the total opposite. SD is afraid to do anything out of her comfort zone for fear of embarrassment or failing but it's all about BM keeping control, don't you know? I really was a "chunky" kid but my parents just encouraged me to be active and make better meal/ snack choices and I eventually lost weight. *Shrugs. Vent over.