It is so wrong for them to go around saying that she had a miscarriage when they did not even know if she was pregnant.

I agree with you, I seriously doubt that she was pregnant to begin with.

Don't forget that they've been trying for "months" at this point, meaning that yes, they'll be pregnant again before too long. Would be a good time for your DH to maybe talk some sense into these two and explain how their timing of baby #2 is not such a good idea. And with neither your SS and his wife working, they'll be bringing another baby into an unstable sitch.

But good luck with that...

I still think condoms for stocking stuffers this year is a great idea.

Yeah that's not a miscarriage in my mind. That can be a whole mess of other things from it being delayed due to stress or simply miscalculation.

Miscarriage is devastating. I've never tried to get pregnant personally but my sister was 14 weeks along when we found out. It was horrible. It angers me that they are trying to say she should have some sort of funeral... for what? At 5 days even if she was their wouldn't be anything. BM in this case seems like she's trying to jump on the petty me / attention wagon.

Don't they have a new baby? There is no way her periods are "regular" yet. I don't even think a pregnancy test would register positive at 5 days.

Ugh. I know it's "inhumane" but I seriously wish we could block some people from reproducing.

Do people not have enough drama without creating some of their own? In this case imagined or self-created drama?

I am sorry they are having a hard time with this, but announcing you are three days pregnant...? There is a reason people are normally quiet in the first trimester. I know what it is like to really want a baby but this kind of drama is just looking for trouble / attention.

Who the hell publicly declares themselves "pregnant" after being 5 days late for their period?? Are these two THAT attention whorish??

I'm sorry, but if you don't have a positive.. like blood work at the Dr.'s office... pregnancy test, then keep your stupid attention whore mouth shut. It's really offensive to those of us that have TRULY lost a pregnancy and it's just downright dumb.

I'm fairly certain I have "miscarried" before - late period, super faint positive pregnancy test, and then the worst period of my life after.

I was disappointed at the time, but I didn't need consoling, support groups, or anything else. My XH and best friend knew what was going on, but that's it. Never once did I think to spread all over Facebook what as going on.

This type of reaction is just as slap in the face to everyone who has lost pregnancies.

BM convinced DH that she miscarried twice. Both times were before she ever needed to see a doctor. Both BM and DH have fertility issues, so the chance of her getting pregnant naturally are about as likely as winning the lottery (SSs are the result of IVF, took five rounds before it worked). I pointed out to DH that it was so highly unlikely that she got pregnant naturally that it was laughable and she was lying to him. I asked him if she ever shared a positive pregnancy test or went to the doctor - he said no.

I haven't had a miscarriage but I feel that this would be insulting to anyone who has.
I know if I was in a support group and someone started talking about loosing a baby at 5 days without a positive test I'd be angry. Especially if I'd lost my baby at a later term.

I've always been under the impression, and also adhered to this myself, that's it's best not to announce a pregnancy until you pass the first trimester mark. Otherwise, you are just setting yourself up for heartache and disappointment should you miscarry. But that's just me...

I miscarried at 5 MONTHS. 5 freaking days late?? Pffffft. She was NOT pregnant. SMDH

This reminds me when my husbands niece had a miscarriage. Drama on Facebook for a year! And on the phone. On and on....and then she got pregnant again and went on and on how this baby is her rainbow baby. All over the top for attention.

My hubby and I had a miscarriage decades ago....it was devastating.....but privately devastating.

GRRRR>... We lost our pinto bean at 9 weeks, and we had seen the hearbeat 2.5 weeks prior. That made it so real. Our 2nd ultrasound at 9 weeks is when we were advised there was no heartbeat. We were both looking for it and didn't see it but the lady said nothing. I had a gut wrenching feeling then as we waited for the Dr to come talk to us. We were mourning the sudden death of dh's father only 4 days prior-in the middle of funeral planning-and my dads stage IV cancer diagnosis. It was BRUTAL.

A 5 day late period w/no pregnancy confirmation....pfttt... chaps my ass.

As someone who had a real miscarriage I find it really offensive when people pull crap like this. Right after I miscarried at 10 weeks my ex-boyfriend's ex girlfriend found out and contacted him telling him she was pregnant with his baby in high school and aborted it with 3 birth control pills. She tried to piggyback off my real pain, for attention from my boyfriend. And he didn't understand why I was so upset.