So after having to ask multiple times for the details on exes plan and not getting any info here is our interchanges and what I feel is just another veiled threat.

I have carried bs on insurance before and after the divorce. Ex offered to add kids and quit paying his portion of my cost to insure bs because he is adding his wife so the kids are free because they do not have employee plus spouse just family. He expected Me then to pay all bills and copays for him adding bs.

Here are last week's emails and todays.

Me: For the open enrollment mine begins on the 2nd. I would like to make a decision and do my sign up on Monday the 6th to get it done with.  I need to know if you have an out of pocket deductible, a provider list, and information on the ortho coverage. I do not want to not be able to use his pediatrician or his therapist who are covered under my insurance. If you could please provide me with that information I would appreciate it.
 
At work I have an 80/20 plan.  My company will pay 2K/50% towards orthodontic care. I have a deductible which ( even when I was on UHC or BCBS at old job) you have never had to pay any bills leading up to my deductible. The last year my RX has not counted towards the deductible and I have had to pay that but I have not passed on any of BS’s DR’s bills leading up to that fulfillment ( other than the 40.00 for that ER trip).
 
I mention this because I don’t feel it is right for either of us to have to contribute to the others deductible. I personally set aside monies from my HSA/FSA for that purpose. This year I have paid the deductible twice due to my switching jobs and still not passed along any of BS’s bills because I do not feel that would be fair.
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Ex : As for the insurance portion of your email, we will be in touch as soon as we have a chance to get all the ducks in a row.
 
Me: Hi loon & SM
 
Do you have the information for me on the details of your plan? I need to get signed up soon and am perfectly fine with keeping things as they are.
 
This is morbid but do you still carry life insurance on the kids.  I signed BS up on my plan for that when I was hired here along with the optical, dental and health insurance. 
 
Oh just a heads up we are going to the dentist on the 29th.
 
EX: We’ve decided, because you’re adamant about keeping bs’s current providers and he’d have to switch over to our drs and clinics, dental and pharmacies, we’ll not going to pursue a change in coverage at this time.