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Ann's CPS Adventure

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 10:16am

So, I got the scoop on the CPS visit. I have to be quick because I have a phone conference to be at, but I wanted to give you all the scoop.

In a nutshell, Ann was accused of leaving her boyfriend's son (eight years old) alone for a couple hours when she was watching him. Tom and Mary were at Mary's counseling appointment, so hey, at least she's going to counseling. The CPS worker met at Ann's house, they talked for a bit, the worker basically said she sees these kinds of things all the time, and it's almost always someone trying to start trouble. So, Ann is off the hook, case closed, yadda yadda. She was telling me all this last night and actually seemed... I don't know? Amused? She certainly wasn't the least bit upset. She knows BM is behind it, obviously, but again, this doesn't wave even a teensy red flag for her.

I reminded her of my adventures in Step Hell, and the shit storm we went through with BM. Does she really want that? Her response? "Let her just TRY IT." It's like a challenge to her or something, I don't know.

I did say to her, "You do realize, don't you, that this is just the beginning." She doesn't care. They're a strong unit, her and Tom, and the kids love her, and love always wins...blah blah blah. She SAW what I went through, she lived it with me, but nope, say it with me, peeps...

"IT'LL BE DIFFERENT WITH US."

So, go ahead and risk losing custody of your own kid, idiot. He'd probably be better off anyway, you know, now that you had two new kids.

I'm so glad I've been putting some distance into this friendship. Ann is beyond saving.

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moving_on_again's picture

Submitted by moving_on_again on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 10:20am

I can't believe CPS showed up for that! BM gave MSD a black eye for looking at a boy that BM didn't like and all they did was call, listen to MSD say she was fine, and that was it!

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Submitted by princessmofo on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 10:23am

Well, looks like Ann is riding off into the sunset of happily ever after. :sick:

There are none so blind as those who will not see, Ghost. As we are both well aware. But hey, she must love that d*ck more than her own kid.

As you are aware my sister has and is making the same mistakes as Ann. Oldest sd has already stolen meds, jewelry and clothes from my sister and they just all moved in together in May. Sister's solution, to get a lock for her bedroom door. *insert eye roll*

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Submitted by IDontCare3117 on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 10:23am

I feel so sorry for Ann's son. She either doesn't see she's putting his welfare and future in jeopardy, or she sees it and simply doesn't care.

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Submitted by classyNJ on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 10:41am

Waiting for the update when CPS shows up for something more serious such as "she is touching my son". So sad!

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Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 11:24am

Oh, this is only the beginning. I've been there and done that. I'm waiting for BM to coach Mary to say Ann's son sexually abused her. I wouldn't put it past her.

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Submitted by TwelveLongYrs79 on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 11:32am

If you read any SM blogs, FB pages, here at STalk, etc....many of us future SM's have said similar things.
I admit I was blind as well.

"She won't do that to US"
"We'll get along just fine - we can both play MOMMMEEEEEEE"
"I'll love his kids like my own"
"They'll just have to love me bc I'll be sooooo good and sweet to them"
"I know he won't let her get in the middle of our homelife..."

And so on, and so forth...hindsight is 20/20.

However....she is ostriching this situation so badly, because luuuuurrrrvvve can conquer alllllllll.
Love don't conquer police reports and court dates.

Come see us in a year, Ann. We swear we won't judge.... WELCOME TO THE TERRORDOME Blum 3

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 1:17pm

Biggrin Biggrin Biggrin

I've recommended ST to her, but no, that's for UNSUCCESSFUL women who, you know, aren't as awesome as her.

I'm quite annoyed by her today, can you tell?

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 1:27pm

Sooo...what's her idea of success because, so far in my relationship, CPS hasn't shown up at my door because BM and my SSs wanted to stir the pot...

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Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 2:28pm

I guess, in her mind, it's making a stepfamily "work." Making the kids luuuuuuv you and preferring you over their own mother. And, you know, beating all the challenges that come along with the whole mess. She's uber competitive. She MUST WIN!

You know, unlike all us "unsuccessful" steps who disengaged or left the relationship to save ourselves. :O

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Submitted by TwelveLongYrs79 on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 3:30pm

Yes. It's because when you've lived through something - you expect people to heed advice when you are a bit seasoned in the realm of StepHell.

But some people like learning EVERYTHING the hard way. Guess Ann will have to do the same, unfortunately at her dignity and her BS's expense.... Sad

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 1:06pm

Oh sweet, naive, silly little Ann.

I agree with TwelveLongsYrs above. We all say/believe stupid things when we first go into step life. It's inevitable because we don't know any different.

However, I am flabbergasted by some of these folks who have LIVING, BREATHING examples of step life gone wrong who STILL follow along for "lurve" (read: money and/or bedroom acrobatics). At least for me, my excuse was that my family had a very well blended step situation, so everyone I talked to and was around acted like step life was no big deal. I figured the horror stories were few and far between.

But this just slays me. It absolutely KILLS ME that, as the non-live-in GF, she's ALREADY had CPS called on her AND she's sticking around! I love my DH, but there is no way I would have stayed if CPS had been knocking on my door because BM called them. I might have continued to date DH, but we would never have married or discussed a future. I couldn't do it.

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Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 1:20pm

And not just sticking around, mind you, she's considering buying a house with him!!!

Money and bedroom acrobatics indeed. It ain't his personality, looks or parenting skills, I can tell you that!

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Submitted by SonOfABrisketMaker on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 1:09pm

When I was young and incredibly stupid, I almost lost an eye to a novelty lighter. Even now, 20 years later, I am horrified of what almost happened and in awe of my incredible dumb luck. I get the same feeling about my marriage to my DH every time I see these kinds of stories. I walked into this relationship with absolutely no idea that this is so common in modern mixed families.

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Submitted by still learning on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 1:35pm

""Let her just TRY IT."

Oh she will and it will only get worse. Poor delusional woman Sad Can't say she wasn't warned.

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Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 2:29pm

Right? Just wait till she moves in! Then gets engaged. Then married. She obviously learned NOTHING from my whole ordeal.

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Submitted by moving_on_again on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 3:55pm

Does that ever make you wonder if it's because people don't believe us when we talk about how bad it is/was? My aunt said, "Oh, you just don't like BM because she's your fiancé's ex." I said, "No, I have never spoken a bad word about his second ex-wife, because she's not crazy!"

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Submitted by advice.only2 on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 3:21pm

I really keep hoping the Ann chronicles are just for our entertainment, sadly I know that's not the case.

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Tue, 09/12/2017 - 8:03pm

It's sad we all knew this was going to happen and foolish Ann didn't take the advice given to her. Every one wants to be special--everyone wants to be the stepmom that lived happily every after **eyeroll** How many generations of stepmoms have to go down the toilet before everyone accepts this gig is sh!t

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Wed, 09/13/2017 - 2:54am

I hope you told ANN that now she's on the radar and they will look at her with a close eye and she must think of Chris...

on the other hand, I hope they take Chris from her and send him to his Dad or me for that matter, that poor boy deserve so much more

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Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Wed, 09/13/2017 - 5:44pm

I also told her that this is most likely the first of many, and the accusations will only get more outlandish. Meh. She literally shrugged when i told her that. She'll see.