Just say no unless you receive an order from the court compelling you to disclose your financial information. And if it gets to that, hire a lawyer to fight it. They're not your kids and you have no rights and therefore no responsibility for them. Actually just ignore her demands. You don't need to answer. Block her number from your phone.

Yea not sure what state you live in, but unless there is an extreme circumstance and the skids are living in extreme hardship, the courts won't consider the smoms income (even in a state like CA where it is pretty biased towards women). We are getting this also and hearing news of BMs belief that her "lawyer" is telling her that she can get 30% more in CS if she goes after my income or talks my commander (im in the military). It's all talk, absurd, and total BS. It is very unusual for a court to consider a step parents money since, as I'm sure BM will be first to tell you, you have no legal rights to skids, didn't make the decision to create skids, and weren't in their bed!

IGNORE THE WHORE. Block her number.. why does she even HAVE your number. Silence girl. Do not speak to her.

Ignore, ignore, ignore. If you are tempted to reply back block her number. If and when she goes to court to try to get cs adjusted you can discuss this with a lawyer. Usually a step parents income is not relevant.

Yep.. Ignore.

Put DH on notice that he needs to deal with her.

Unless your DH has asked for a hardship type modification to his CS, your income and how you contribute to the household bills is none of her business. If the court wants a breakdown , the appropriate steps will have to be gone through. Silly BMs on a text get nothing. Why does she even have your number?

No clue what you do for a living, but as a public state employee, my husband's state pay was online for years (he's retired now). It simply reported his state pay. No details, no other type of income, just yep, the Comptroller issued him this amount on this day and a year to date. Unless your salary is public knowledge , how does BM even know what she found out is accurate?

Ignore her. Don't waste your day boiling at greedy bar tenders who can't afford their rent. Perhaps if she up scaled her tending environment she'd make more money. Plenty of servers make very decent wages/tips, just obviously, not where BM works.

You have no legal obligations to step children, financially or otherwise.

Nope... it is very unlikely that your income as the SParent will be considered for CS. Let her go crazy with it... the Judge will likely deliver her her own ass in court.

I know when this happens, it's so hard not to feel incredibly angry. You've just gotta remember that she's clearly a loser and a crazy one at that. Whenever BM asks or implies anything to do with my income I get furious because NO WAY IN HELL will another woman have ANY access to my money or think she has ANY rights to it, especially a woman who refuses to work while i've worked my ass off since 18.

We have full-time custody and she barely sees SD AND doesn't pay child support, yet whenever my husband would ask for her to split on the cost of something SD needed, she'd say it's my problem, not hers.

I get so angry whenever BM implies "sunshinex should pay for that because she has more money than me" or "you married someone who makes good money SD is her obligation now!" I actually end up ranting for hours to my husband about what a crazy biatch he slept with lol. Before we were married and we didn't even share money she'd make comments like that!

The only time your income will matter to BM is when/if skids apply for financial aid under the FAFSA.

Don't reply at all. She has no way to get ANY of your money. Our BM tried to do the same thing and it was thrown out. Don't worry.

Wow these women want to live off everyone else indefinitely wow

Even in NJ, which is absolutely the worst state you could imagine when it comes to CS and alimony....a new spouse's income does not come into play, with the exception (in NJ) of college and even then, only to the point that it frees up the NCP income.

Just ignore her. If it somehow managed to be taken seriously by the court- get your own lawyer to block, limit the scope of disclosure or at least have the info only for the judge's eyes...not BM's. Then, go after BM for your legal fees.

You should ignore her but being the person I am, I would respond even though it's not the high road or the best. I would send back" "Lol" because her request is ridiculous.

In some states, if you can prove the NCP is in a supportive relationship, they can say their share of household bills is smaller and that frees up more money for CS. It's sucks, but I've seen it happen in my state, PA. Look into it to be sure.

Apparently, here in California, Child Support cannot be increased when a new mate comes into the picture:

http://www.thurmanarnold.com/Family-Law-Blog/2010/March/I-am-remarried-H...

There were numerous sites that mentioned this. This is a concern that SO and I have, if something should happen and BM gets wild hair to go after him for more money.

You are under NO obligation for talking her texts, calls and emails. You are not obligated to talk to, text with, answer texts, answers calls, take calls or make any of the above to BM. Nor any of her family.

You are not obligated TO give her your phone number or email address, work number etc.

Most certainly you are not obligated to answer this question.

The only person your obligated to answer this is a Judge.

Time to block her. I never understood why new wives gave out their private contact info to the ex anyway.

You can un-ring this bell right now IF you want to.

Best bet is to ignore. Have u tried kick boxing?? It's great for stress relief and u can picture BMs face on the punching bag and have at it.

"Either ignore her or screw with her."

Or, you could do both.

Lawyer up and drag her back to court to revise support and tighten up the custody agreement. (Hopefully you've been documenting her shenanigans and any extra time you've had the kids). Find a vicious attorney who knows how to knitpick and bury the opposition in minutia. Label her high conflict and insist on only written communication between her and DH.

I'd never speak another single word to that crazy bitch - but I'd give her a jaunty wave while bankrupting her in court.

Just take pictures of yourself smiling and respond with those. Be extra annoying back.

Every one already said it - block BM and then ignore her...

see a lawyer and find out if your income will count towards CS... then make plans accordinly