BM stopping skids from coming to our wedding celebration.
Not sure if I should be happy or not. It would be nice to have the skids there but I was dreading the drama that Slore (BM) would try to create. The skids said they both wanted to come. But the wedding is on a weekend that DH doesn't have visitation. The way all the arrangements etc lined up it had to be a non visitation weekend. I've been going through plans with SD13, what her bridesmaid dress will be and what style the hair dresser will do her hair. But yesterday Slore BM said she wouldn't let's the skids attend.
This way she's refused them and it's all her fault. We don't have to get the skids outfits for the wedding so it's a cost save.
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Don't worry about it.She is
Don't worry about it.She is just trying to screw with your fiancé. My sd's BM did the same to us. I was upset as I wanted to have her there so she would feel like we were becoming a new family or whatever I believed at the time but it really didn't matter in the end. On the day it was one less thing to worry about and we had our own little celebration with sd another time. Just focus on your fiancé and try to forget about the noise your BM is making. I am sure there will be plenty more times she tries to interfere.
"Don't be surprised if she
"Don't be surprised if she "caves" at the last minute"
This is the truth, she is going to do whatever is the most upsetting to you.
I'd buy the dresses but don't cut the tags off and make sure they are returnable. Tell the skids you are sad that they won't be in the wedding but you are happy that they will be with their Mom.
I can see her doing exactly
I can see her doing exactly that. Agreeing to it last minute, making DH drive down to pick up the kids on the morning of the wedding and then not being at home so poor DH comes back empty handed!
"making DH drive down to pick
"making DH drive down to pick up the kids"
Could anyone else in DHs family get them? MIL, an aunt, someone who BM wouldn't want to upset?
If there is, don't tell her DH isn't coming until just before the person is leaving. Don't give her any room to wiggle.
I don't know about your BM but ours wants everyone to think DH is an ass but that she's MOTY. She'd definitely screw over DH and then tell everyone that he never came but she'd never do it to MIL.
She said the way the
She said the way the arrangements had to be made that it HAD to be on a non kid weekend. What's so hard to believe about that.
And WHY should she plan an event around what BM may or may not do. Seriously.....I seems to me that Even if she had planned it on a Kid weekend the BM would have found a way to keep the kids from coming.
Someone could work the
Someone could work the weekend the skids are there & not want have days or not want to use them for a marriage ceremony, but rather save them for a trip.
My husband actually does, so
My husband actually does, so I know this happens. He works on my weekend with him. & he can't switch without changing jobs.
My DH has been on overtime
My DH has been on overtime since the freaking stone age. He usually finds out on Thursday if he has to work that weekend. Many times, he's only off one weekend a month. So, of course, that becomes the skid weekend.
Instead of focusing on the
Instead of focusing on the fact that the OP tried to plan a party that would fit around the schedule of the majority of their friends and family which happened to fall on a Non skid weekend, you are focusing on the DH and OP not wanting their Skids there.
When the reality is...it appears that DH and SM have accommodated BM in the past (hence they were owed two days of make up time) and their requests for time denied.
It's about common courtesy and respect. Plain and simple.
The double standard doesn't fall on the OP...It falls on the BM who clearly was just being difficult in attempts to ruin their reception.
No sure why that is so hard to understand.
Exactly, thank you! . I
Exactly, thank you! :). I just told my MIL that BM said no and she replied back 'What a bitch!' MIL is so sweet and polite I love it when she's rude about BM....lol!
And there it is...
And there it is...
well when I was going to get
well when I was going to get married to DD2's dad, I bought SD13 a dress for the wedding. SD15 at that time was sometimes trans, sometimes straight, and sometimes gay. She kept switching non stop on if she was going to wear a suit or a dress. So I mailed her cash to buy whatever it was she was going to buy. I told her our wedding was going to be Mardi Gras themed and our colors were going to be gold, purple, blue, and green. I showed her my girl's dresses and her sister's dress. So first she said the card arrived in the mail but without the cash in it. HUH? Yay right. Then BM took her to the mall and bought her a slut fire engine red dress. She called at the mall and asked if SD was a guest or in the wedding. She was told SD was going to be in the wedding and was going to be the ring bearer. And she bought her a dress that matched no one at all! BM's will try anything and everything to ruin your wedding
Thank you ladies, I think
Thank you ladies, I think you're right BM will try anything to ruin the wedding. We had a private ceremony back in May just hubby and I and this event we have planned is for all our family and loved ones to join us. Why the delay between now and May well my poor FIL had surgery/ best friend gave birth to triplets a week ago. We have friends flying in from all over the world so yep it had to be the date we chose. BM owed DH two visitation weekends which we asked to exchange for this one day but nope the dumb whore BM had to say no.
I hadn't thought that she'd agree to let them go at the last minute, it wouldn't surprise me if she tries that.
It definitely simplifies the wedding by not having them there, one less thing to worry about plus it's saving us $500 so I'm going to enjoy spending that on our honeymoon instead!
BM you've screwed over your own kids once again, it's amazing how you never fail to hurt them.
Be happy they won't be there.
Be happy they won't be there. Want to know how many pics I have of DH & I on the day we went to the courthouse with our friends? 1! Want to know how many he has of him & his kid? 20-something! On what should have been our day. Still pissed about it, because I look horrid in that 1 pic, but SD ran over & had to have the spotlight & her pic taken right then (she was 8 I think…so old enough to know to wait).
That's true and I also don't
That's true and I also don't have to worry about skids videoing or taking bad pics of us and sending them to BM.
Skids videotaped our
Skids videotaped our wedding... why??? They hate me. So that BM can watch it. Thankfully everything was nice.
That must have been funny!
That must have been funny! Our private ceremony was back in May, we told the kids and had a celebratory dinner with them the next time we saw them. They went back and told BM the day before BMs birthday. I'd like to think is ruined her birthday!
We did think about doing it during DH vacation week but FIL(best man) was still housebound recovering from heart surgery and my maid of honor was about to pop with her triplets.
Yep, videos....that was
Yep, videos....that was something I really didn't like the idea of. I'd been planning on taking skid phones off them for the wedding day but I know they'd have been a bit bored at the reception without their phones. SD is addicted to snapchat, it's funny to see and she tries to show me what's being sent to her.