He should throw up on her.

What is wrong with people? If your SS threw up in front of his class that would be so embarrassing for him. I would the same way you do, which is that I would raise Hell if they attempted to punish him. Hope he feels better.

yeah i'd be pissed too. i miss the days of school nurses who would watch you for a few minutes and determine whether to call a parent or not. it would NOT have been pretty if i got warning signs of an impending migraine and got told No by a teacher.

Ahh, way back in 2nd grade I had a teacher refuse to let me head to the bathroom when I was sick. Being a rather meek, non-confrontational child, I stayed put. Our desks were clustered into groups of 4. I vomited bright orange cheeto puke all over those four desks. That teacher never refused to let me go to the bathroom again.

I would usually er on the side of caution and send a note to school with the child saying they had had a stomach ache but now feel good enough to go to school but that if his stomach ache came back to please call me on x number and I will come and collect him.

Anyway, try not too let school distract you from court this afternoon. I hope it all goes smoothly for you.

The teacher didn't see me raise my hand (we had 3 classes in the same room with 1 teacher during the post war baby boom years), and I projectile vomited all over the little boy in front of me. That little boy was scarred for life I'm sure.

The teacher told me that I could just get up and leave if I ever felt like that again.

Did SS actually tell the teacher why he wanted to go to the office? That e felt sick with stomach upset? Of all the years I've ad kids in school, I've never had a teacher not immediately race a sick kid from the classroom. Who wants kid barf and smell in their classroom?

Poor kid. I hope he feels better. It may just be stress and anxiety over the court hearing, even so, if he doesn't feel well, he doesn't feel well. Sick children learn nothing classroom wise if his tummy is aching. Refusing a trip to office and school nurse was ridiculous on teacher's part.

I will say, it would bite him in the *ss in my school district however, for having the cell in the classroom. Phones here are to be turned off and kept in students lockers. The phone and the sick with office refusal are two different incidents and should be treated as such.

I would have to first get the refusal to go to office as a sick student handled first. Teacher was wrong. Then stand back and let my kid take his knocks for disobeying phone rules. Our student handbook has a page and a half of phone at school usage and procedures.

I have heard of teachers/schools with these policies because they are trying to limit disruptions. Not sure if this is a policy in your school and if it is, if it is new.

My thought would be that if you are imminently going to actually throw up/have diarhea or pee in your pants, you ask and if not given permission, you have to just go anyway because "nature" isn't going to wait.

In this case, the only thing I might say is that the boy didn't say he had to go to the bathroom, he said office. That tells me that what he was dealing with was not an urgent need to be dealt with and interrupt the class. He could have sat through the remainder of the period then gone to the office. If he was actually getting ready to throw up and needed to go to the BATHROOM, the teacher would have had no business denying THAT request.

I mean, how long is a period at his school.. maybe an hour give or take? Unless he had screaming appendicitis, I don't think waiting until after the period was over was too harsh. Again, if we are talking a biological need.. I would have a big problem with that, but I'm not sure the teacher was 100% out of line for wanting him to wait until after class. It wasn't like he was going to be denied the ability to go home all day.. just had to wait for one period to be over.

BS, good luck this afternoon. please keep us posted - hugs and prayers for your family.

I'm glad he could reach you. I think you might have to teach him to be more assertive in situations like this. He's getting older now and is responsible enough for more independence.

There are schools that don't let kids use the bathroom at all during class time anymore. That's just not reasonable for a lot of kids. And he needs to learn to take care of himself, literally.

Poor SS. It's really hard on kids on court days.
You are not allowed in court (and don't want to be there); you go to school as you want to be normal (whatever that is). And then the stress you are under causes physical ailments.

SS has learned a lesson. He needs to say lavatory (or bathroom or whatever word the school uses for those facilities). If he wants to see the nurse he needs to say nurse. Requests to go to the office are vague and in many schools the administration gets angry with teachers who send kids to the office unless it is for sickness.
Yes, SS is a good kid, but it is only the second week of school, and teachers are still sorting out who is the kid who asks to go to the office because he is sick and who is the kid who asks to go to the office but really wants to do something else. And while teachers do talk, it's not as much as some assume, and with a teacher having seven or eight classes it's highly unlikely that SS would have been the topic of conversation.

Do speak to the teacher. Let her know what was going on. Let her know SS's previous attendance record. Let her know he doesn't ask unless he needs to. It's two weeks in. The only attendance on her radar is the kid who attends every other day. She hasn't looked at any kid's past attendance.

Hope SS feels better soon.