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Apparently 3 days sober is all she could Handle...

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Tue, 06/21/2016 - 9:44am

BM is off the grid again. Last we heard anything from her was a text sent to SS on Saturday asking him what he was doing. He never replied to her. When she is sober, she posts all kinds of pictures of SS on her FB and attempts to make arrangements to see him. That lasted 3 whole days and now she is gone again.

Buh-bye loser.

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Submitted by Amcc13 on Tue, 06/21/2016 - 10:00am

Thank goodness he has you and your husband to give him a solid foundation. Poor kid- his mom just can't love him more than her addiction and needs serious help
All you can do is continue to do your best for all involved

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Tue, 06/21/2016 - 10:14am

I hate it for SS. It's not like she has never been a part of his life. She has slowly just removed herself. If she had always been gone, I think it would be easier for him to deal with. But how do you go from having a mom, to just NOT and not be affected by it? I just don't want him to be a dysfunctional adult because of this. Sad

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Tue, 06/21/2016 - 10:57am

He doesn't. I've asked him several times if he wants to talk to someone. He always says no, I'd rather talk to you. I would push it if he had any sign of it negatively impacting him. He is just so normal and adjusted. Almost like he's relieved that he doesn't have to think about it. Maybe we aren't doing the right thing by not making him talk to someone, I don't know.

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Submitted by hereiam on Tue, 06/21/2016 - 11:05am

As long as you have offered for him to talk to someone and he knows that he can talk to you.

Forcing him to talk to someone can backfire. He may take you up on it someday but until then, I think you are doing pretty damn good. Having you and DH, and the stability that you give him, makes a BIG difference.

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Tue, 06/21/2016 - 11:13am

Thank you, we are trying to do right for him. The right answer doesn't always stare us in the face though. All we can do is what we FEEL is the right thing for him.

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Submitted by Tuff Noogies on Tue, 06/21/2016 - 11:05am

how does ss act when she's MIA for these binge periods?

starting several years ago, dumb@$$ would disappear for days at a time when the kids were w/ us, not answer calls/texts for exchange arrangements or anything. oss and lurch got used to it, even kaos did (he acts out more when he DOES communicate w/ her, but is fine w/o. go figure).

your ss may not say a whole lot about it cuz there really might not be anything to say. lurch made the comment once when he was younger, "well, she's just in a bad place right now." sometimes kids can be more accepting of things that we cant change than adults are.

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Tue, 06/21/2016 - 11:11am

He is far more normal when she isn't around. When she starts contacting him often, that's when I see a difference in him. He will get sad for a few minutes after a phone conversation. But he snaps out of it pretty quick. And, phone conversations don't happen very often. Maybe twice in the past 6 months.

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Tue, 06/21/2016 - 12:17pm

Ugh, I can't even imagine when it gets to this point. And I am certain it will. Except, I don't know that SS will ever find out. We don't tell him anything. I did tell her that she might want to consider being HONEST with him about what she is going through. She never will.