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Submitted by Raggles on Wed, 04/27/2016 - 2:59pm

Im off away for the weekend with SO and he asked me tonight if his eldest stb22 could borrow my membership card to give her access to heritage sites.

This is the girl who will not even say hello to me and yet wants to borrow my membership card so she doesnt have to pay to get into the attractions. she wants to borrow it but without speaking to me. We arent planning on using it over the weekend so yes she could borrow it but as far as i am concerned if she wants it she can ask me herself.

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Submitted by Icansorelate on Wed, 04/27/2016 - 3:06pm

yup this used to drive me crazy with ex SD. would ask her dad if she could bring a friend to my beach house or eat my food, etc....I felt the same as you, she could ask me.

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Submitted by 20YearsAsAStep-Mom on Wed, 04/27/2016 - 3:25pm

I would say no. I would not want to help anyone who won't even say hello to me. Just tell your SO no you don't feel comfortable doing that - no need to give a reason actually. It is your card and you don't want to give it to her or say you already promised it to someone else to use.

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Submitted by 20YearsAsAStep-Mom on Wed, 04/27/2016 - 3:25pm

I would say no. I would not want to help anyone who won't even say hello to me. Just tell your SO no you don't feel comfortable doing that - no need to give a reason actually. It is your card and you don't want to give it to her or say you already promised it to someone else to use.

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Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Wed, 04/27/2016 - 3:40pm

^^^Agree^^^

NEVER reward bad behavior. Telling DH that preeshuus needs to ask on their own behalf only creates a way for someone who doesn't wish you well to use you. Just say no.

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Submitted by Tuff Noogies on Wed, 04/27/2016 - 3:45pm

i wouldnt let it bother you too much, doll. shoot, we do this at home all the d@mn time - lol! "kaos, would you ask daddy to turn the hose off?" "lurch would you ask if kaos put my vacuum back?" even at work "could u ask employeeA if i could have one of her cokes?" i think of it more as a relay, kind of a shortcut to getting a message or request through.

i REALLY chaps my @$$ tho' when kaos asks something of mine to use or for me to so right in front of me... he does this delibrately when he"s in a anti-tuff mood... dh always corrects him "SHES RIGHT HERE, ask her yourself!"

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Submitted by Raggles on Wed, 04/27/2016 - 4:16pm

I dont think i will give it to her even if she does ask me herself.
I made non committal noises to SO. We dont live together so by time ive driven to his house packed up the car and left i will have not left it behind... oh shoot sorry i did mean too!!

I agree they both have a cheek to even consider asking me but im not getting into anymore arguements over this sort of thing.
I havent said yes and neither have i said no... i will just forget all about it now. If it comes up again i will change the subject or if i have to will lie and say i left it home!

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Submitted by hereiam on Thu, 04/28/2016 - 8:50am

First of all, my SD24 would not have the nerve to do this.

Second, if she did, my DH would probably laugh. No way would he expect me to do her a favor if she treated me like that.

Did you tell SO that his daughter needs to ask you herself?

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Submitted by Raggles on Thu, 04/28/2016 - 1:15pm

I have avoided talking about it directly because at the time i thought he orginally asked if she could borrow my CAR!!
Which instantly set of bad reaction to which i told him he had to be f-ing joking!! By the time we cleared up that i misheard car for Card we had moved on the convo in a different direction!
It will get brought up again saturday morning i have no doubt and as sd22 wont be there i can avoid that conversation again Biggrin