I have posted here before about my mom, aka the Original PASinator, so I won’t go into all the gory details, but suffice to say, I didn’t see my dad for a long time after my parents got divorced. Like 8 years. When my daughter was born, something akin to a bolt of lightning exploded above my head, and I took my 3 day old daughter, strapped her in her car seat and drove from Chicago to Michigan to show my dad his first grandchild. Didn’t call, and I wasn’t even really sure that he still lived where I thought he did, but he was there and it was the start of rebuilding our relationship.

When Asshat and I divorced, my mom tried to PAS my kids against Asshat. I shot her down at every turn. Even told her flat out that she was NOT going to do to MY kids what she had done to us. Always with the snide remarks about Asshat, his wife, his house, his whatever. I kept the kids away from her from time to time because of this. All the while, she was still taking potshots at my dad. Again, I shut her down at every turn.

My daughter got married last year and she and her husband split holidays with each family. Pretty standard stuff when an adult child gets married, but not for MY mom. Oh, no. She is outraged every year because DD24 “has” to spend either Thanksgiving or Christmas Eve with her in-laws. And, I mean outraged. Says things like, “why do THEY get to see you and I don’t?” and “it’s not fair that THEY get to spend time with my granddaughter and I don’t.” My daughter knows who her grandmother is and responds accordingly, typically with something like, “grandma, stop it.” I guess I raised her right – lol!!

Asshat, his wife and their kids moved to Boston about 25 seconds after Thing1 and Thing2 graduated from high school back in 2013. Both Things are in college. Last year, both Things were home for Thanksgiving, and each went to Boston for some time over their Christmas break. Thing2 was actually in Boston for Christmas, while Thing1 was home. My mom hit the roof!! “Why does ASSHAT get them on Christmas and you don’t?” Uh – because they are adults, I see them all the time and Asshat doesn’t, they miss their little brothers and sisters, they want to see their dad and SM and a million other reasons. I always support when they want to go see their dad and tell my mom to lay off all the time, but she doesn’t. The Things respond accordingly, typically with “grandma, stop it.” Guess I raised them right, too – lol!!

This year is the year that DD24 spends Thanksgiving with her in-laws. In an effort to accommodate my mom, DD24 suggested that we do Thanksgiving on the day after this year. I would have told my mom “see ya next year, Grandma” but my daughter is far more thoughtful than I My mom agreed to Thanksgiving on Friday.

Just got word from the Things that they are going to Boston for Thanksgiving this year. Do I care? Nope – they haven’t seen their dad, SM and siblings in almost a year and I totally get that they want to go. No big deal at all, right? Yeah – I have a feeling that when my mom learns this, she is going to HIT THE ROOF!!
The Things have plans to tell her this weekend. Apparently, Thing2 is driving from his college town to Thing1’s college town and my mom is meeting them there.

At least they have the courtesy to tell her in person – LOL!!!