Advice and thoughts needed/wanted

My skids haven't seen their mom since November, because of numerous reasons. Couple of the reasons are one she is court ordered to have supervised visitation at a parenting center or her mom can and she was in jail from middle of December to the middle of February.

She is back in jail and the kids want to see her because they haven't seen her in about 4 months. We are planning on taking the kids to see her Sunday at the County Detention Center. Has anyone ever had to do this? What are your thoughts on it?

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I have called, as long as

I have called, as long as there is an adult with the children they can go. It's between a glass on a phone, so no contact.

I did feel the same way but

I did feel the same way but seeing how much they miss her and how badly they want to see she's physically okay has changed my mind a little. I'm so torn. I have told them how it's gonna be and that they are not going to be able to hug, touch or kiss her and they all say they still want to go.

I do agree with this too.

I do agree with this too. Very tough decision!

This is a tough one! It's

This is a tough one! It's great that you've already done the research on the place
I personally wouldn't want my kids to see me like that but if the kids want to see her and she's ok with it, I think you're doing the right thing

She is back in jail because

She is back in jail because she violated her release on bail, her criminal trial is set for April 21 and she still has 4 to 5 other misdemeanor cases open. We have a feeling they are going to throw the book at her, so she's looking at 1 to 5

Thank you sharing this link,

Thank you sharing this link, I feel better about how honest we have been with the kids. I don't want them to ever think we lied or hid anything from them.

Thank you

A friend of mine is doing

A friend of mine is doing this with her SDs. But they were removed from their mother's custody as she went to jail so they were very attached, and I know that swayed their (her and hubby's) decision. Personally I think they made the right call. The girls needed to see their mom after she disappeared. She'll be in for 1-5 too.

The older girl (13) took it well. She was angry, mostly.

The younger one (9 at the time) didn't. She cried for hours. It was a lot for her to take in. I still think they made the right call, but it was very hard for her.