Reason #563 why I should know better than to ever let good clothes leave this house...
Several weeks ago, as you may remember, DH was too sick to take SS to school. (See previous blog) So ss's step-father picked him up from our house and took him to school. I, naturally, fed ss and made sure he was dressed for school. DH has a habit of dressing ss in the same three or four outfits. Literally the same shirts over and over, clean of course, but the same stuff.
For some reason, that now escapes me, I decided to dress ss in one of the very nice designer shirts my mother had purchased him for Christmas that day. He looked very nice and the shirt fit well. I didn't think anymore of it. Until this past weekend when I was cleaning out the closet. In the past if ss has worn any of our clothes to twat waffle's, and vice versa, they are cleaned and returned to the other parents house. But on occasion some of the nicer things I have sent him in have disappeared. Sent to some "no man's land" where no one seems to have any knowledge of said item.
Well, that's what happened again. I mentioned to DH to ask Cuntcakes about the shirt. And what reply did he get? Why the standard playbook answer of, "It isn't at my house." So, you see no good deed goes unpunished. I tried dressing ss in something nice and new. Made sure he looked good when DH was sick and inadvertently gave horseface a brand spanking new shirt. I fucking give up. It's my fault. I should've known better. But I'm still pissed about it.
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I had the same thing happen.
I had the same thing happen. I swore I would not buy anymore Skid clothes because they never come back
Then I went to PTC before Christmas and the teacher said the other kids are making fun of SD because of her clothes (SD was crying)
So I went and bought her clothes. I sent some down to BM's house with the promise they would come back.
Haven't seen one article since. And SD is upset that I won't let anymore clothes go to BM's house until she starts wearing some of the items back.
I know better and got suckered.
I hear ya. It's total
I hear ya. It's total bullshit, isn't it?! Pisses me off to no end...
Yep. This exactly. Won't
Yep. This exactly.
Won't make that mistake again.
DP is now in charge of clothing.
Use to happen to us all the
Use to happen to us all the time. BM wanted us to send SD back with the clothes she had from her weekend visit, but would never send what SD wore back to her house back to us. First I started sending her back in stuff I didn't like or that she was about to outgrow. Then BM commented on it. So, told her "well, we'll send your stuff back, but put her in one of the many outfits you have from our house when she returns".
Not even a week later it was "well, it's all SD's stuff so I don't mind if some of her stuff from here is there and vise versa"
We just started changing SD into whatever she came to us in before she goes home.
I am insane about this too!
I am insane about this too! Whatever he comes home in, SS6 goes back in, laundered immediately and usually alone in a mini load, I fear BM cooties. (we have residential, she sees him EOWE, if that) We lent her a few outfits (she claimed she didn't have anything) for the week leading up to Christmas. About half came back. His uniform school pants,which we sent as a part of a "church appropriate" outfit were not returned. I told my DH NEVER again. I don't give a rats ass if it's the summer and she needs a few things. Hit the sales racks, pick up things for $3-5 an item. Don't fucking ask us again bc the answer is no and we will tell SS that things didn't get returned that's why we can't send anything again. He understands this is why we don't let Toys go to her place. If he brings toys in the house from her, I confiscate it while he is at school a day or two later, so I don't have to hunt (bc it's going to be me looking, DH would say here, take something brand new)....ugh. Frustrated for you!
We used to keep all the
We used to keep all the clothes separate but they are only with us EOWE and my mom would buy stuff that they would want to wear to school. BM used to send all of that stuff back with the kids but over the years everyone has mellowed out. Clothes aren't a big issue anymore luckily.
It's not funny because we go
It's not funny because we go through the same crap but I seriously LOL'd at "cuntcakes" For us SS wears his nice clothes to BM's house and she gives them to her husband. BLAH
I hear about the clothes all
I hear about the clothes all the time and we have the same problems... But gives them to her husband?? Really? That's the worst thing I've heard about clothes. What the actual fuck.
I know how you feel. This
I know how you feel. This happens here as well. I refuse to let the skids go home in any of the clothes we bought them. I was what they came in that night after they change for bed and they go home in exactly what they came in. The troll tried to trick us this past Christmas regarding clothes. We had a family Christmas party (that is held every year). When we do get to bring the kids we have them in their Sunday best (the troll normally sends them looking nice). But not this year. Tennis shoes, cargo pants, etc. We had to stop at the mall on the way to the party and get nice pants, shoes and shirts. Afterwards DH was wondering if he should bring the kids to church (at the drop off) in those same nice clothes. I put my foot down and said no, she sent them to us looking like that, they can go home looking like that. If we had sent them to church in the new clothes we would never see it again.
I have mood swings when it
I have mood swings when it comes to this.
I made the mistake of thinking she would be respectful of HIS clothes that DH bought him since they are --ya know-- for him, but I was so very wrong. DH started dressing him in the 5$ mix and match sets from Target with cheap shoes for whichever season (2$ flip flops for summer, 7$ Walmart for winter). We figured problem solved, we won't (and shouldn't) get all worked up over 10$ outfits getting ruined because we aren't that hard up. Great plan EXXXXXCEPPPT
For the winter season I went and bought SS seven thermal long sleeves with matching athletic pants along with some character socks for him to wear during the week. Whatever outfit he wears on Friday, he can just go to BMs in so we don't have rush around before pick up to change him. Too bad, she just keeps the sets and sends him in high-water sweats for 18months (he's 3.5 yr old and tall) and stained up shirts. Atleast the socks are safe, right?! WRONG, she's sent him back home in girl socks half a dozen times by now. Now we are back to rushing around before pick up to find some of her bum clothes to send him back in in the hopes of getting something of ours back.
Like I said most days I could care less, its 10$, big whoop; but at 8 am in the morning when I go into SS3's closet to pick out clothes for school and all I have are stained up bum shirts with pants that are high waters, I get aggravated.
I went through this, started
I went through this, started sending SS6 (then 2) back in whatever he came home in, laundered and cleaned with as much shout as possible..it was terrible when it was a school day. Now that he is in a uniform, he comes home to change before getting sent to her, so I feel less bad about him looking too big for the clothes. I Started taking hand me downs from neighbor kid and the not so nice stuff could go to her. I recommend the Old Navy clearance rack, I have found long sleeve shirts for as little as 97cents. I am even nuts about keeping BM's underwear for SS separated from ours.
We have tried everything over
We have tried everything over the years. The skids change as soon as they come in and they are supposed to wear BM's clothes back to her house. But a lot of times they take stuff back to her house in their school bags. It isn't worth the drama so I stopped buying them clothes. I will buy only 2 changes per season from Goodwill now and if they have nothing to wear so be it. I never take them into public anymore anyway.