SD18 is married. We found out on FACEBOOK.
She did it, she married the abusive loser. And since she STILL hasn't called DH to tell him, all I can think is that she's embarrassed that she let herself be pressured into this. (Abusive loser is the one who posted it on FB. SD hasn't said a word about it - to anyone, as near as I can tell.)
*sigh* I've actually blocked her on FB now. (Not unfriended, just blocked.) I can't watch this train wreck any more.
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I googled how to block
I googled how to block someone's posts from your newsfeeds, and did that. So her posts don't show up any more, but she still shows up in the friends list. (And I can still see her posts if I go to her page, they just don't show up in my newsfeed any more.)
I HOPE that's all I did anyway! I don't want to unfriend her or anything, it's not like I want to cut all contact. I just don't want random crap assaulting my eyes without warning.
And all I can do is HOPE that in a few years she's got her head screwed on as well as YOU do, broken! There doesn't seem to be anything I can do except wait though.
You "unfollowed" her
You "unfollowed" her
If you live in a state where
If you live in a state where CS is mandatory till 21, this is an emancipation event!
Betcha she cried on abusive loser's shoulder about how BAD her biodad and AllySkoo were.
File under "leading a horse to water; horse doesn't drink"
No, thank god! We have
No, thank god! We have officially reached the end of CS, as she's the youngest. (It is soooooooooo great not to have that expense, we really see a difference in our finances!)
I'm not positive, but I don't think she cried about us. She's always been a Daddy's Girl, and adored DH. (She HAS bitched about her mother, SD and BM have a volatile relationship at best.) I THINK Abusive Loser (I'm gonna start calling him Loo which works on SO many levels) and his equally abusive and psychotic mother (who lost custody of her kids because of abuse - apples and trees, you know?) have been trying to brainwash SD that DH and I don't care about her. That's the real reason she and her dad don't fight, donchaknow. Because obviously he doesn't love her enough to yell at her or hit her. Which they might actually believe because, as I said, they're abusers. That IS "love" to them, however sick and twisted.
edited to add: By the way, I don't mean "Daddy's Girl" in the negative mini-wife way! I just mean she's always looked up to him and respected him. She VALUES him, in a way she never did BM. Or at least she did, before Lou started his "you belong to me and only me" campaign.
Well she'll soon find out
Well she'll soon find out that "Loo" doesn't have her best interests at heart. And then what? What a mess she'll be in!
Sounds like my SD23. She got
Sounds like my SD23. She got married at 18 and tried to keep it a secret but got upset at DH so did a, "Hahaha, I've got a secret," and blabbed. For us, that ended CS so I was doing cartwheels.
She's divorced now, with 2 kids. Her ex filed for divorce less than 4 years later, without even telling her. I believe he was abusive, also (emotionally, for sure), so I'm glad he left her.
I feel for your SD, she's got herself into quite a situation. Is she still going to school? My DH tried to convince my SD to get some independence but it fell on deaf ears so she's completely on welfare; no job, no HS diploma, no GED.
As far as I know, the plan is
As far as I know, the plan is for her to finish high school, and even to go to the local community college. (I'll believe college when I see it - I think that's a little too much independence for Loo to allow her.) She SHOULD finish HS though - my DH has really, really good insurance, and DH's insurance will cover the baby in full as long as SD is in school, whether she's married or not. (SD herself is covered until age 26 whether she's in school or not.) So if she were to drop out of high school NOW (just had the baby a couple weeks ago) then the baby would not be covered - leaving SD and Loo (who's on the birth certificate) liable for a very large medical bill. I don't think Loo wants to pay, so it'd be easier for him if SD finished HS at least.
At least we didn't have to
At least we didn't have to decide about going to their marriage
True. Now I'm concerned that when she gets married again, she will have a wedding and we will have to go! There is not real issue between us so I don't really have a good reason to NOT go.
*lol* Funny, I said
In all seriousness, I was a bit worried about that. I didn't want to go to a wedding and seem like I supported it, but I couldn't figure out how to let SD know I support HER, just not this marriage. She IS going to need us when she wants out, even if she can't see that yet, so I don't want to burn any bridges with her. I just don't want to watch the train wreck until then.