Excuse me while I vomit.
Let me start off by saying that I have very few complaints about SD7. She is a very sweet kid, very kind, and easy to like. She cleans up after herself (as much as any 7 year old), asks for permission before doing things, and takes no for an answer very well.
BUT - SD7 seriously lacks basic hygiene skills. BM doesn't make her bathe every day, she doesn't brush her hair everyday, and she STINKS. She also has a bedwetting problem (at age 7...). BM believes SD "can't help it", and has taught SD to believe that, too. SD most certainly can help it, I've seen her do it. She wears pull-ups to bed, and will sit around in her pissy-pants pull-ups all morning if she isn't told to go change. Doesn't care that she's sitting in her own filth or that she's wet. And, just a few moments ago, DH witnesses her picking her nose and EATING IT. :sick: WTH?? He confronted her, told her how NASTY that is, etc. She was embarrassed, but I'm sure it will happen again. :shudder:
On another note, BM called as soon as DH left to pick up SD tonight. She wanted to meet him in OUR TOWN, instead of him driving to HER TOWN like he usually does. Acted like she was doing him this big favor. Then she goes on to say that she was actually in ANOTHER TOWN, and wouldn't be home by the tome DH got there to get SD anyway. "So instead of you driving all the way out there and me not being there, how about I just meet you? I'll be coming through YOUR TOWN around that time anyway." Um, yeah, you're not doing US a favor, you're covering your own ass so you don't get another contempt charge. But whatever, DH agreed and turned around - less driving for him! DH and BM agreed to meet at X store in OUR TOWN. When DH got to X store, he texted BM to say he was there. One minute before the exchange time, BM texted back "Just pulled in to Y store." Seriously?! So then DH had to drive to Y store, eating up about 10 minutes of his time with SD. It's all a big game with this woman.
I know these are small potatoes compared to what some of you all deal with, but CRAP!
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I don't understand that
I don't understand that impulse at all. Never, ever, not once have I ever wanted to put a booger in my mouth.
We do a big hygiene push
We do a big hygiene push while she's with us - she thinks it's "funny" that she has to take a bath everyday when she's with us. I completely agree with the "This is what we do at our house" sentiment. I also like the "preparing for life" comment, we will have to start using that, too!
Both my SS were awful
Both my SS were awful bedwetters until they were 9 and 11. I mean drench the bed and no matter what he did their room always had a faint odor of urine. One of my SS shit his pants (it's called encopresis) somewhat regularly up through middle school. I have found encrusted smeared booger wall art. The one who shit his pants still to this day will clog my toilet half the time he empties his bowels (mega dumps) because of his terrible eating habits and he still has lingering issues with the muscles of his intestines being stretched out from holding in feces. I could go on and on and on if you want gross...
Ugh! No thank you!!!
Ugh! :jawdrop: No thank you!!!
My SS was a serious bed
My SS was a serious bed wetter until 16. Now it is only occasional. he would soak his bed nightly and not tell anyone, and I could smell the urine from the hall.
DH and I actually had a big blow up fight because I wanted to buy SS a new mattress since his reeked. GOD FORBID I want him to have a mattress not soaked in urine. How that was a problem I have no idea, but whatever. I dropped the issue, and a week later DH had the *brilliant* idea to get SS a new mattress. :jawdrop:
His hygiene is awful. He complains about acne, and DH buys him all kinds of special soaps to try to help him. But does DH talk to him about maybe washing his HAIR more than once a week? NOPE. Does he mention that sleeping on dirty oily nasty bed linens and pillow covers that are covered in dead skin and oil that only get washed once a season might be causing it? NOPE.
Meh. Let him be a pock face.
She used to be potty trained
She used to be potty trained at our house, but would still wet the bed at BMs. Until BM taught her that she "couldn't help it" and withheld visitation for 5 months, at which point she came back and peed every night. She also doesn't pee when she stays the night with friends.
DH does limit drinks, uses lots of positive reinforcement when she doesn't wet the bed, rewards systems, etc. He's kind of at a loss beyond that - all the stuff that worked the first time he potty-trained her.