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Submitted by Dtoliver1988 on Thu, 11/20/2014 - 1:20am

Ok so last year I got back with my old love. He was married and got divorced because his wife had an affair with his BFF. Well I met jayden his son fell in love with him. My bf was looking for something serious. We made it official with us and a couple of months later I became pregnant with my first child a baby girl while I did have a difficult and high risk pregnancy I still went to work if jayden was over at our house I took care of him. My fiancé works overnights so it would be me and jay until morning I got up made his breakfast. Well my fiancées ex didn't like or want me to be around jay and it got worst when she found out I was pregnant she started not letting my fiancé see his son anymore . And then she would only send jay when he was sick . Which I feel was intentional to hurt me. Or all of a sudden jay would try to kick me In my stomach Tryna harm my baby. He started to become rude (he's 4 but he's alwYs been pretty respectful and well mannered) before he use to cry and say he wanted to stay with us forever. Now he doesn't wanna stay here he wants to stay at his grandmas she lives next door. When I had my daughter he loves his sister that's his baby he says but lately I feel
Resentful of him. My daughter was a week old jayden had a cold and his mom sent him to us! And then my daughter was a month and he wanted to play some gun game I don't believe in or I don't allow at my house he started saying things how he wants to kill the baby -__- ever since he said that I don't want him around I have a resentment towards him idk what to do?

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Submitted by Dtoliver1988 on Fri, 11/21/2014 - 12:27am

He needs to be but he's not mine I tell his DSL but he doesn't believe in spanking I'm like and that's the problem

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Submitted by Dtoliver1988 on Fri, 11/21/2014 - 12:38am

He will tell after I point out the wrong doings like when I came home with my newborn I had jus had a csection and I had to walk with the baby well Jayden's toys were everywhere over the floor I couldn't see and I almost slipped with my baby I told my fiancé and then he yelled at his son I believe if u can make the mess u can clean it up.. Or he comes in MY house and does not speak to me my fiancé will be like give me ur cookies ok no cookies until u speak to "dee" well he throws his tantrums and I don't get my respect hello and jay still gets his cookies I told him he needs to be consistent discipline which is why I no longer want to cop aren't with him with his son I gave up I'm putting the energy into my child. Mind u I think it's just his mom has poisoned him. My fiancé sees his son once a month so sad

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Submitted by Ljcapp1 on Thu, 11/20/2014 - 9:08am

And I'd like to add that just because it's your SO's time doesn't mean you have to take Jay when he's sick. Your SO can tell BM the boy isn't coming over sick - that's total crap.

Like the others here have said ALL OF THIS is up to your SO. He is the one that has to deal with BM and set boundaries and you also need to keep track of all the times she violates the CO. Just in case she wants to get court happy with you.

He's only 4 so he's jealous of the baby and like Sally said he needs an ass whoopin. Saying crazy things like that about killing the baby. Or it is your baby and you do have a place to say to him what you think of his comments. Anytime he talks like that SHAME HIM!!