My BM would be E: Pretend you have no idea there is a concert. Let SM and dad take care of everything. Go to the bar and ask for pics to be texted to you. I hate when he texts her pics.

Oh I was going to say

E) Blame SM and demand that DH buy brand new of everything and have SM hand deliver it all immediately!

sm hates the kid, so another option would be "kid misses concert, sm blamed for not buying/ironing/washing shirt, cuz she hates skid."

OMG. I'm a BM and would say "you need xyz for event. Please pull them out of your closet and try then on so I can see." Depending on what happend next and the floods that I see on my boys, we'd make a quick trip to the store.

OMG. I'm a BM and would say "you need xyz for event. Please pull them out of your closet and try then on so I can see." Depending on what happend next and the floods that I see on my boys, we'd make a quick trip to the store.

My BM would do "B" and "D" as well back in the early years.

In my house, if you are the BM, it would be (and yes, I experienced this):

Know full well SD (in my case) needs black pants and white shirt for school function. Put head in sand, pretend you don't know. (I suspect) Tell SD it's not your responsibility.

SD then waits until like day before items are needed to tell DH. He is working and can't take SD shopping, but he asks SM (me) to take her. I take SD, let her pick out a white shirt and even let her pick out a new pair of shoes. (She already had black pants, I knew where they were and that they fit, also knew she never wore them and so refused to buy another pair she would never wear.)

SD pouts for the whole trip, picks out the most expensive pair of shoes she can find, and only grudgingly thanks me for taking her when prompted (by me). SD wears said items ONE time then NEVER wears them again. When SM asks why SD does not wear the clothes SHE picked out, SD takes them to BM's house and "loses" them.

Option F: have child call dad and manipulate his guilt as taught by BM to buy new clothes and shoes despite ALL the CS sent. And of course, child will need money for dinner out to celebrate concert, and on and on.

E. Call ex and scream at him that he should have known and demand that SM run out and buy him one.

E = BM doesn't have any clue about the concert ..
..until she hears about it from someone else and then swears she was there.

I don't know!!!!!!!!! There are just TOO many choices!!!!! *insert eye roll here*

My SS had his junior ring ceremony during our time. Since DH and I paid for his ring to the tune of over $300, DH told her to buy him dress clothes. SS is very thin and tall. The clothes she bought hung off him and fit DH. Thankfully, my DS's suit fit SS, so he looked really good at his ring ceremony. I took the day off so I could attend. BM didn't bother going. DH has a new outfit to wear.