I posted earlier about me being the one and only person left to plan birthday parties (and ALL holidays for that matter) for the past 7 years while BM is off moving from boyfriend to boyfriend with no concern for her kid's upbringing. So again, this year, DH is working 12s for 3 weeks, including SD11's birthday and again, I'm alone to plan it and make it work.

For those fellow STalkers who offered ideas, I THANK you. I will use your ideas (i.e. Dtzy) and I already reserved a party place on the weekend BEFORE DH will be unavailable. That way, he can share the joy (sarcasm). It's 2 weeks prior to the actual birthday but it's just going to have to be that way.

For those of you STalkers who decided to use my dilemma as an opportunity to bash me as if I'm the big jerk who is the only one available to raise SD and oh, poor SD....well...(insert explicit language)...do you really feel the need to criticize the only person helping SD? It doesn't help to express virtual pity for the kid when you don't even know how rotten this kid is to live with, nor does it help to criticize why DH doesn't just change careers. He can't change careers, he's 19 years into the military and A) they won't let him out until he fulfills this last commitment, and it makes no sense to get out and miss the 20 years for retirement by getting out 1 year early.

I don't care who feels so sorry for SD when here I am, the one who is being used especially by BM and I'm the one who has no outlet for my resentment. Yes, I do resent all 3 of them...BM, DH, and SD.