First Annoyed, Then Angry, Now Terrified By SD16's Choices
SD 16 couldn't make stupider choices for herself if she tried. Between the lying, manipulating, stealing, back talk, skipping and failing school, attempt to run away...now we can add unprotected sex to the list.
DH and I are enjoying the one night a week I am home before 9pm. His phone beeps that he has a text message. 'Call me NOW.' from BM. Oh joy, it's been a whole week since the last crisis.
He calls and is informed that Princess has been sneaking a boy in her bedroom at night. And it's not the first one. And she didn't use protection with either of them. So because BM 'can't handle her'...DH jumps in the car and drives the hour to get her and then bring her back. She sat here with an almost smug look on her face as her father cried and told her that her choices can kill her. So we have had her for the last 4 days and I can't even look at her. Twice she tried to start a conversation with me and I just walked away. She's going to end up pregnant or worse and she doesn't give a shit. Typical 'won't happen to me' attitude.
I'm so tired of her breaking DH's heart. Honestly, he is part of the reason she is like this, but he looks like he's aging before my eyes.
This was our date night weekend...now I've volunteered to babysit just to get out of the house.
I'm at a complete loss with her.
Oh..and the boy she snuck into her room this week? Was recently charged with stalking his exgirlfriend. Just gets better and better.
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Her dad and I have made
Her dad and I have made things very difficult for her the last few days. Chore after chore after chore. No tv, no video games, one can call her mom to say good night. She started to complain how tire she was this afternoon and DH said, 'Try doing all this with a baby everyday.'
Good for your DH! Great
Good for your DH! Great response.
EXACTLY. Mom has always been
EXACTLY. Mom has always been reactive not proactive, but I'm hoping she just doesn't get her the pill since she will never be trusted to take it.
Wow. They need to get her on
Wow. They need to get her on birth control like yesterday.
I told them that 2 years ago
I told them that 2 years ago when she went boy crazy...but what do I know?
Fedup, that is just a
Fedup, that is just a nightmare, one that I have feared may be in my own future. So sorry for you. Mine is only 15 and has discovered boys only this year. She has a bf but so far he seems like a nice kid. She's so pretty he hasn't noticed yet that she is not. Don't know how it's going to turn out but I have fears that, sadly, you are currently living out. She could still go either way, though, and her dad has really stepped up his game this year so the balance might tip the other way yet. I have my fingers crossed.
So so so so so sorry for you. Very close to home.
It truly has been a hellish
It truly has been a hellish weekend for us. She doesn't seem all that concerned about the possibility of being pregnant or having a disease. After all her chores were done it took 10 minutes for her to complain she was born. DH went to my bookcase, took a copy of Treasure Island and dropped it in her lap. lol! She said, what am I supposed to do with THIS?' Read it SD and if you complain again, I will be happy to grab my bible for you to read next.
Thank you for your kind words.
I know where you are coming
I know where you are coming from. My SD got pregnant at 17. She dropped out of school, got married, and had a second kid exactly a year after the first. Her husband divorced her a year ago so she is back at BM's, since she has no clue how to take care of herself (no job, either).
She's 23 and my husband worries about her constantly. He's on the phone with her right now and I think she has lost her driver's license (lost as in, suspended). I'm not sure why but I will find out!
I also overhear that she is back with a guy that she has been on and off with since her divorce, and has been lying to DH about it. The guy is a complete loser and treats her like crap, but she is a co-dependent so she will settle for anybody.
Your DH needs to take control of this situation, if he can, but I know it's not easy. We tried with my SD. DH tried to instill in her that she needed to be independent, have her own money, stay in school, blah, blah, blah. But she stopped coming over when she was 15/16 and although her and DH talked on the phone, he had no influence over her.
But in your case, it sounds like BM is also concerned so maybe your SD can be put on the right path. My SD's BM did not give a shit.