Hey ladies

Hi Ladies,
So it has been a while. I thought I would stop in and give an update. As of today I have lost 40lbs. I feel and look great and want to loose another 50.

Crazy ex's GF broke up with him, he sent me an email saying he still loved me bla bla bla. He then got mad and is still blaming me for having him arrested. BS is having issues so we are going back to therapy, this time his dad is coming with.

So here's my other news, I sort of met someone. He is totally not like anyone else I have ever dated. Very blue collar, and is Italian and from NY originally. I am very vanilla, swedish, Minnesotan. BUT he is so sweet and has a really big heart. Also being from the east coast he is so direct and truthful that it is really refreshing after being married to crazy liar pants.

He has NO children, but has had a stepfather. Has never been married but lived with a woman for 19 years who cheated on him. A few years after that he dated a woman for about 16 months that had a teen age daughter. He knows I don't want to ever be married again, will never co mingle money and that my son is my #1 priority. He knows that I don't want to rush into anything and that my ex husband is crazy.

I can tell he really likes me. He is on the road a lot so we talk almost every night and I am amazed the things he shares with me especailly being a tough talking new yorker. The funny thing is he keeps telling me that his mother is going to love me.

So we shall see. He is only home a couple of days a month so there is not a lot of pressure on me and it is easy to keep my life with my son seperate from dating him.

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This is hilarious. I think

This is hilarious. I think 'The Ikea Test' should be standard issue for new relationships!

Congrats on freedom, weight

Congrats on freedom, weight loss and new friend. He sounds nice

Can I ask how are you losing

Can I ask how are you losing the weight? Are you exercising and eating better or doing a specific program?

Congratulations on your new life!

I am doing weight watchers,

I am doing weight watchers, exercising 3 to 4 times a week and trying to cut down on processed food.

Thanks! The stuff with BS is

Thanks! The stuff with BS is draining, he can be so sweet one moment and angry the next. My friend thinks it is because he is afraid of loosing me too. I am dreading going to therapay with my ex but it needs to be done.

My new friend is really sweet. He made a passing comment last night about he could see himself growing old with me and feeding each other pudding in the nursing home. That is sweet and scary at the same time. He knows though that I need slow. He has been alone for a while and I need slow.

Tomorrow I am going out with a GF to paint pottery and maybe go listen to some live music. New friend is out on the road and probably wont be home again for a while. For now this works for me.

Good for you! Great job on

Good for you! Great job on the weight lose.

I need to drop 30lbs. It is

I need to drop 30lbs. It is SO hard and I've been eating REALLY poorly lately and NO exercise AT ALL.
I think I'm going to have to get back on WW. Uuuggghhhhh….
Congrats on the weight loss and on the new beau!

Me too! 30 pounds would be

Me too! 30 pounds would be ideal for me!! Let's start a 30 pound weight loss challenge haha

30 would be so awesome. I'm

30 would be so awesome. I'm at 185. If I could get back down to 155, I would jump for joy.

I'm a diabetic and take

I'm a diabetic and take insulin. I don't have energy to exercise often and it is so hard to lose weight without it. I tried WW but since they count fruits as zero, it was too hard for me to adjust their plan to my diabetes. I talked to them about it but they weren't helpful. I went through a diabetes education with a nutritionist after going on insulin last year but it was not that helpful either. I've pretty much just resorted to trying to eat healthier, eat smaller portions and exercising when I can.
WW has been successful for some of my coworkers. The only thing they complain about is feeling hungry a lot. I'm not sure if that's typical of the program or maybe just in the beginning.

I have it too. To complicate

I have it too. To complicate things, I also have ulcerative colitis. It is tough for me to figure out what to eat since one doc recommends high-fiber, low carbs and the other recommends low-fiber, high carbs! So, I tend to get frustrated and just eat whatever sounds good at the time. :?

yay sweet t! glad things are

yay sweet t! glad things are going well with your new "toy" }:) and your weightloss journey.
*fingers crossed* for the therapy session...

Thanks, I would mug someone

Thanks, I would mug someone for a donut some days but I just focus on the big picture. I have MS so it is really important that I be in the best physical shape that I can be in.

This guy is so not a toy. He is something else. TMI, he is not looking for sex, told me right out he would only have sex with a woman if he were in love with her. I know he cares for me, and wants me to meet his mother when I am ready.

aw i didnt mean it in a "hit

aw i didnt mean it in a "hit it and quit it" way!

i was picturing a child getting a new toy - how their eyes light up and they feel so special and they hug it and hold it with the biggest smile ever.

ya know the saying when one door closes, another opens- sounds like that's happened for you ^_^

So good to hear that you're

So good to hear that you're doing well! Hoping this new man turns out to be wonderful! You deserve it!!!

Glad to hear all is well

Sounds like you're moving in

Sounds like you're moving in the right direction. Good for you and keep up the good work. I agree with the IKEA test

The Ikea test is a good one,

The Ikea test is a good one, however I hate Ikea so that would mean I would have to go.

The one crazy thing about going out with someone who is only home a couple of days a month is that our relationship (can't believe I am using that word) is more phone based. We talk about once a day when he is on the road. So I ask LOTS of emotionally intimate questions and he just lays it all out there. It is funny because he says he would never share this kind of stuff with someone as a rule.

My only misgivings is that we are really different people with different interests. But I think who a person is morally and emotionally is more important than what kind of music you both like.

Thanks Stepdown. I am 46 and

Thanks Stepdown. I am 46 and he is 45. We shall see how it goes. I am very Minnesotan and he is very NY personality wise. My lifestyle is totally different than his. I am very white collar, have an office job and am all mom stuff in my spare time. It is kind of funny because I think some of that is part of the draw.

I can't remember if I already said this but I have been pretty clear about not ever getting married again and he has never been married and was not interested in ever doing that. Well after knowing me for 4 weeks, he has dropped the line that it is not something that is completly off the table down the road for him. My biggest concern is being rushed because I know he really likes me and the fact that I am really different from his previous relationships.

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