DH and I celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary last weekend. We didn't have a babysitter and so we took our kids with us to dinner.

Somehow their thoughts turned to SD21 and her family. I guess last time DH went to SD21's city to see her, she was at BM's house and so they went by there and of course BM wouldn't let them in so my BDs were forced to stand on the sidewalk and look over the fence. Not sure I got the whole story, but there is the gist.

So BDs are curious about SD's BM, and they asked DH about his "old wife." Snicker. They want to see her and don't understand why they have not in all this time (BD is 11). DH said she is short and round (both accurate, if not flattering). Then DH said they will probably see her at SD21's wedding. Um, yeah, not sure she'll ever get married.

So I'd had a bit to drink and my tongue was a bit loose, so I said, "Ha. You know we won't be invited to her wedding." Because this one deliberately did not invite me or our two BDs to her high school graduation. Only DH. On purpose, there was no shortage of tickets. It was a deliberate slight, and she told DH as much.

Of course DH says, "Oh, SD21 is much better now." Um, yeah, sure she is. That's why I haven't heard a peep out of her in several years, despite the fact that we cover the vast majority of her school and when I saw we I mean WE, DH and I married when she was 8, most of the money saved for her education was put aside while we were married and I make considerably more than DH. But SD21 will never thank me, despite the fact that without my income DH would not be able to contribute to her education.

DH of course agreed to that and then said to our two BDs: "SD has to learn how to get along better with your mom" or something to that effect. Not exactly admitting that she has problems, but at least not completely making excuses for her.

I have told DH for years that one day our BDs are going to have questions and he better be prepared to answer them truthfully. So it was funny to see him scrambling.