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About SD5(soon to be SD6): Part 2

Rose.Colored.Glasses's picture

I love this man...how can I despise his child so much? I don't want to lose him, but I am so sick of the entitlement, the not listening EVER, loud, obnoxious, lying, manipulative, mean, miniBM. My son has been in and out of the hospital the past couple of weeks and stress has been at an all time high. We are all worn very thin and all FDH and I did was argue on Friday(the day after I brought my son home). He apologized later but he pretty much thinks I'm vile and mean to his precious little princess. Sorry I had rules in this house before she ever stepped foot in it. I know, I'm a terrible, terrible person for implementing them. Sorry, I don't want her standing on my kitchen table or doing cartwheels off my bed. My kids follow them...I can't even tell you the last time I had to raise my voice at them. My LO is at a difficult stage right now; she's 2.5yo and typical for her age and that in itself creates enough stress. It's not my effing fault she has to be asked to do something 20 times...I didn't create that mess. He even pulled the good 'ole "if you can't love my kid, you can't love me" BS. He's lucky I have enough restraint to not discipline her, the way I discipline my kids. If my kids did half the crap she did, their asses would be red and beaming for a week. I don't tolerate a child telling me no...if they don't eat their lunch? No snacks, popsicles or anything until dinner. You're hungry? Well, I guess you won't have any problem eating dinner. This happened over the weekend, and then FDH guilted me into giving her the rest of my sandwhich I was eating. I was so pissed!!!! It was all had to eat so far that day and I told her before I even served lunch,she wasn't getting shit for snacks if she didn't eat her lunch. I feel like I get no respect in my house...he moved in with me, I'm a more experienced parent(32 became a parent at 16) with 3. Yes, I'm ironclad...no, I don't give in. The very reason why you will NEVER hear my kids tell me no or be asked to do something more than twice(twice out of hoping they just didn't hear me the first time). I've never even heard my kids curse one time...not one and they are almost 13 and 16. They wouldn't dare. His kid on the other hand, I'm scared at what she will become by 16. I've even had nightmares were we yell at her to stop, let the ball go. She doesn't listen, as always, and gets hit by a car. It could happen with this kid. And parenting is to blame. FDH is a push over with no spine or balls and BM is most concerned with her social life. I'll explain that next time. This was more of a vent than rly specifically explaining anything about FSD5. Le sigh...

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oneoffour's picture

Are you married to the guy?

I wonder why you can love a man so completely when he allows his daughter to disrespect you and guilts you into handing over your lunch. Why didn't he hand over his?

I cannot tolerate rude children and if you want your kids around me I will pull out The Look and then the instruction "We do not do that in this house. Stop it now." What is so attractive about a man who treats you like this? Never has my DH told me "You must hate my kids." The closest he came was "Is there anything my kids do that is OK?" Sure... and I listed them.

The girlchild is allowed to behave like this. Examine the source. And maybe start telling your SO/DH "Please stop your daughter from somersaulting off our bed. No one does that here." "Please explain to your daughter why she is not getting any snacks before dinner." "SO/DH, why do you allow your daughter to throw pillows in the living room when no one else is allowed to do it?"

And never ever let him guilt-trip you again.I feel so sorry for you.

Rose.Colored.Glasses's picture

I plan on never letting him guilt trip me again. Especially the way the disrespect of that incident has been eating at me. To answer your other question, he did let her have a bite of his sandwhich before he inhaled the rest.

He says he hates entitlement above all else when it comes to children's behavior which is why this is so baffling to me.