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Skid takes MY bio to their BMs nightmare!!!

steplife's picture

Submitted by steplife on Mon, 03/17/2014 - 2:20pm

So I don't have any bios yet, and I saw a post about someones SKID getting their driver's licenses. It got me thinking by the time I have bios and they are school aged my SD7 will be a teenager. Does anyone let teenage Skids baby sit their bios? I know I won't when they are babies/toddlers but my older brother used to watch me when my mom had errands to run for a few hours once in a while, but it seems like it may be different in step families.

Then my mind went to...What if SD decided to take bios over to BMs with her to visit or something while I was out!!! Ahh that would be a nightmare! Just sharing yet another thought that us SMs have to worry/think about.

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Mercury's picture

Submitted by Mercury on Mon, 03/17/2014 - 2:43pm

Lol!

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Submitted by askYOURdad on Mon, 03/17/2014 - 2:27pm

Babysit? Perhaps, it would depend on a lot of things.

Drive my kids around? Hell to the no!

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Submitted by justbdais on Mon, 03/17/2014 - 2:27pm

I use to let SS14 watch DS3 for up to 30 minutes when I would need to run out real quick. But something happened a few blocks from where I live that changed that. A 15 year old boy stabbed and killed his 2 young (adopted) brothers and then left the house like it didn't happen when his mom was out with his sisters. It just got me thinking that it honestly could happen to anyone and for it only takes a few seconds of rage. My SS14 doesn't like 'hanging' with his little brother, always pushes him out of his room and his jealous that DS4 gets more attention than him. I won't say that SS14 would ever do anything to hurt his brother but I cannot be 100% he wouldn't so I don't chance it ever anymore.

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Submitted by ctnmom on Mon, 03/17/2014 - 2:28pm

CTBB babysat (for money) for us occasionally. But only when the kids were older. They love him, but if there had been an emergency with a small child I think he would've panicked. }:)

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Submitted by Not the Brady Bunch on Mon, 03/17/2014 - 2:30pm

Not just no. Hell no! Don't even let her in the house alone with them much and that is based on instinct, not actual "event." Did you see the Walking Dead last night?

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Mon, 03/17/2014 - 2:31pm

Um no. SD is almost 16 and lives with us, SS will be 15 this week but lives with BM2. Neither have ever "watched" BS4 and neither will. DH had the brilliant idea back in December when SS14 was over that he could "watch" BS4 while DH and I went to dinner for my birthday (SD15 was at a friends) I told him no, that my mom could watch BS4 and even after DH gave me crap (oh, SS14 would do fine, it's not a big deal, blah blah, you hate skids, boo hoo) I stuck to my guns and guess what? We walked in the door after our nice dinner and a little shopping to our home reeking of pot.

No freaking way would I EVER leave BS4 with that stupid punk, SS14. And SD15??? honestly BS4 doesn't even really like SD15 much, so I wouldn't do that do him.

and BS4 will NEVER get in the car with either of them once they start driving... EVER!

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 03/17/2014 - 2:40pm

I have left BS with the skids before (when things were good with all of us and they were coming over.) But usually my older niece was at the house with my younger niece and I 100% trust my niece, so I didnt have a worry.

I have left BS with YSD once for maybe an hour??? Now that I see how she is, I dont think she would do something to him but I see that she is jealous, so I think it's best to not have my BS around that. She is the skid that I see as the most "sinister". Not that I think she would do something... but.....

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Submitted by Mercury on Mon, 03/17/2014 - 2:52pm

Interesting that you trust your niece 100%. I trust mine too.

I wonder how much of this comes down to that whole "relatedness matters" concept. My sister's child feels like my child. I know that any theoretical children I had would feel like hers too. My niece and my husband's daughter are the same age and are both really responsible kids. I trust my niece but would never trust his kid. An outsider looking in would see this as ridiculous since the two girls are so similar. But the difference is huge to me. My niece has no suppressed or blatant resentments towards me. That other kid does. That says it all.

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Submitted by Bojangles on Mon, 03/17/2014 - 3:42pm

I have had one of my stepdaughters babysit a handful of times while the children were in bed so we could go out, and once in the day when DH and I went to a funeral. Only one of my stepdaughters drives and has a car, she has moved away and only comes to visit a few times a year. Chances of them popping my children into a car and taking them round to BMs are slim. However, my children don't see my youngest stepchild SS16 because he refuses to come to the house or have any relationship with me, and I refuse to have DH endorse SS's behaviour by taking my children to some middle ground so he can see them and snub me. I have had flights of horrified fancy about my stepdaughters asking to take DD7 or DS5 out and then arranging to bump into SS so he can see them. I would be outraged if they took matters into their own hands in such a way. Any if YSD18 ever passes her driving test I cannot see me letting her drive my children anywhere, she engages in risky behaviour and I would not trust her to drive them safely.