You're anger because your ex refuses to raise your kids to be racist? Cool. I say go to court ASAP. Tell the judge you do no want your kids around black, Hispanic, Asian.....people.
Please act quick. If not your poor kids my up playing with kids of a different race or may end in school, summer camp, on a sport team, living next door.... to some OF THEM. Hurry up before that SM starts feeding your kids her kind of food and forcing them to listen to her type of music.

Rush to four with all of your concerns and fears. If your kids are lucky, the judge will place them with dad and SM full time.

If BM is call in your an ignorant racist on FB, then kudos to her. Have to wonder what's wrong with your husband. Why in the world is he OK with have his kids around a racist?

When you do go to court what are you going to do if the judge is an African American/Asian/Middle Eastern etc. man or woman? And they take offense to your views? Unless your children are being neglected you are in for a long road of hurt and heart ache.

I agree with the other posters on this board that what goes on in their father's house is none of your business. Just like what goes on in your house is none of BM's business.

As white middle class women I am ashamed at your views. You have no idea the influence you have on your children. No one is born a racist you are taught it. In the world today it is not realistic to think your children will never be influenced by different cultures and races.

I absolutely encourage you to go to court and tell the judge what a flaming, bigoted racist you are and how you want to raise your children the same way. Hopefully they will end up in the custody of their father where they will shake off whatever nasty views they have picked up from you. Damn right you're an unsuitable mother.

Notice how she hasn't answered "what has she done to hurt your kids??"

Repeat after me: You have no control over what goes on at his house (barring abuse). He could have married the flying purple people eater, or even - gasp - a man, and you would still have no say. Get over it before your kids grow up and resent the hell out of you for poisoning their minds against their dad and SM.

You should be thankful that your children have the opportunity to grow up experiencing a different culture and becoming open minded - something which you seem to be sorely lacking.

Maybe the BM says things about you because you're close minded and racist. Maybe SHE doesn't want her kids exposed to such ridiculousness.

Crew?

I don't get why everyone is trying to reason with a racist. Racists have no ability to reason . So Lets ignore the kkk wannabe. There's no room for that on Stalk.

So the one BM who DARES to post here is a racist? I don't buy it.

OP, what are you going to do if your kids end up with a teacher who isn't white? Or if they ending sitting next to a black kid in class? :jawdrop:

BM?
Is that you???
If so get the number of kids and their ages right at least!

Just in case you aren't the BM in my life, trolling the forum through whatever means of internet you have managed to find in federal prison:

You get no say in what happens in your ex husbands house.
You get no say in who he loves.
You get no say in who he marries.
You get no say in how he spends his time with his children.
you get no say in who he allows children to interact with.

Are you starting to get it yet?
You get a say in YOUR house.
That is HIS house.
His house, his rules, his life.
Your house, your rules, your life.

Notice those last two lines do NOT intersect. There is no crossing.
I am going to make the suggestion that you reach down, grab ahold of those big girl panties of yours, haul them up, tie a knot in the waist band and move on in life.

YOUR job is to raise two healthy, well adjusted, productive members of society.
Your job is not to judge, remember judge not least you be judged yourself...

Seems you are judging the SM in your life, and Karma is paying you back by the BM in your life returning the favor unto you.

You better go see a dr. for some Prozac to help you relax cause there isn't anything else you can do about either of these situations.
It's sad that you feel this way about race but in the end you are the one who is going to suffer for it. You don't get to pick your ex's new wife. If you kids aren't exposed to another culture at their dad's house they will be at school or activites. What are you going to do, lock them up?
Eventually they will see how silly and outdated your views are and then they will lose respect for you.
If you actually brought this stupid B.S. to a judge the best case scenario would be getting laughed out of the court room.
As for the BM of your step kids, she can say whatever she likes and you can't stop her. Quit worrying about her and let your ex deal with her.

Totally a bogus post. What a loon.

You don't approve of the SM's race?

Seriously?

Since name calling is prohibited on this site, I'll refrain from directly calling you certain names.

However.....if a stranger on the street came up and said this to me, I would call them a racist piece of shit and tell them to go directly to hell. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. Tout de suite.

So "unwanted influences" include......let's see....violent TV shows/movies/video games, unrestricted internet access/social media, annnnnd......people of another race?

Do you HEAR yourself Aries???? You sound like a redneck racist. I don't care if you are BM, SM, or something in between. RACISM knows no parental status.

I sincerely hope for your sake and your children's that you get yourself into counseling to see where these racist thoughts of yours come from and maybe change your way of thinking.

ALL races have their stereotypes....and yes, there's a reason that they are stereotypes, they didn't just come out of thin air! But, to assume that all people ARE their stereotype is pretty ignorant.

Did you really think you could spout racist dialogue and receive support????? :?

Geesh, please find another username, come back and post this question but leave out the race part. Find a different reason for her "unwanted influence". Something more palatable. The race thing just wipes out all the other issues in your post.

On the off chance this is legit.... Yes, please take it to court. When you lose custody of those kids to your Ex they might have a fighting chance.

>>> I don't believe in mixed marriages. <<< You lost me at this...

You are obviously too ignorant to understand much in life, so I will not waste my time in an attempt to give you any sort of advice other than this... Please for the sake of all that is Good and Holy, pull your head out.