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Why is it that people think women shouldn't have to pay child support?

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Submitted by msg1986 on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 9:28am

So I've seen in the news lately that that guy Eddie Cibiran, the guy married to Leann Rimes is going after his ex for child support and everyone seems to be bothered by it because LeAnn Rimes is worth 20 million... and the problem is? Everyone keeps saying a man shouldn't go after his ex for child support because she's a woman... soooo just because she's a woman that means Leann rimes should support her kids? This is so stupid. If it were the other way around I'm sure his ex would be going after him for child support and no one would say anything. Why is it that in this society that a woman can walk away from the kids and no one thinks she has to pay a dime to support them but men have to pay up?

In all fairness I don't know too much about their custody agreement, I have just seen a few news outlets saying "LeAnn Rimes is worth x amount of dollars, why would he even think this is okay, she's a woman!" and that's what irked me because that's the idea that most people seem to have, even the courts. It seems like if a man doesn't pay child support they are so quick to crack down yet women tend to skate by without paying all the time.

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Submitted by farting_glitter on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 9:34am

he cheated on his ex with Leann....so why should she have to pay that cheatin' mutha a damn thing????... :?

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Submitted by msg1986 on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 9:40am

Oooh yeah, I heard about that cheating thing, and it's disgusting. I hope karma hits both of them hard but my post was more directed at why is it that women get let off easy in regards to child support.

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Submitted by farting_glitter on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 9:45am

i get that too...i don't think a man should pay if the wife cheated...cheaters don't deserve shit in my book...

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Submitted by farting_glitter on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 9:58am

trust me, i get it....but if i cheated on my DH, i surely wouldn't expect to walk away with everything either.... Smile

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Submitted by msg1986 on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 9:43am

That's crazy... I never understand children who continually stay be their mother or fathers side even if that parent was a dirt bag. I have cousins like that, their mom walked out on them multiple times and everyone in our family pretty much raised them, they bounced from house to house and yet whenever their mother is on the outs they rush to her aid... I never understood it.

Oh yeah, LeAnn and that dude are trash, that whole situation is a shame.

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Submitted by askYOURdad on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 9:38am

If the new wife makes 20 million a year or 20 dollars a year she is still not responsible for someone else's kids.

That said... I don't really care about anything that has to do with people who knowingly destroy a family.

Enjoy the karma bus, I hear it's a bumpy ride.

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Submitted by farting_glitter on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 9:43am

Leann and Eddie both destroyed that marriage with infidelity...the exW shouldn't have to pay shit in this case...nada...zip...zero....

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Submitted by farting_glitter on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 9:51am

never said it did absolve her from her responsibilities....but Eddie isn't any better considering he mooches off of Leanns' money...he disgusts me....

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Submitted by farting_glitter on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:01am

that's not what i meant....but in this case, why the hell should she have to pay because Eddie was a cheating dicktard?...now if she cheated and walked away leaving her kids behind, then yes, she should pay...

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Submitted by farting_glitter on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:14am

these kids of Eddie and Brandy are NOT hurting for anything anyways....jeez....

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Submitted by stormabruin on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:18am

It isn't about the kids hurting for something. It's about both parents sharing responsibility for the children they make.

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Submitted by Journey1982 on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:35am

".....BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT PARENTS DO! It's not the kids fault their mother is a cheating twattard" Exactly. Regardless, the parents are responsible for taking care of their child(ren).

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Submitted by msg1986 on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:01am

I have to say I am with Ladyface on this one.

If this situation were turned around and she cheated on him and took the kids, this story wouldn't even see the light of day.

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Submitted by askYOURdad on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:09am

Leann is one of those people helping the media to give all of us "evil" step moms a bad name.

Yes, I agree that as sm one of the few things we have control over is what we can involve ourselves in. I also think, though, if someone came on here and posted that they don't involve themselves in parent teacher conferences a bunch of replies would be "me neither" but if someone came on and posted a topic titled "I went to teacher conferences, intentionally told BM the wrong time and now she's treating me like crap" all of the replies would be along the lines of "why did you over involve yourself and then get upset when it bit you in the ass?" I guess that's what I think LeAnn is doing, over involving herself in certain areas and overstepping (cringe because I do hate that word) and then acting surprised when it isn't all rainbows and sunshine.

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Submitted by queenofthedamned on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:01am

I agree, LeAnn is a special kind of idiot. Her immaturity and lack of life experience shine through in everything she does. However, as repulsive as she is, she doesn't have to provide for those boys. Were it me - claiming the kids as my own, with money flying out of my ass - I wouldn't think twice about sending some their way. But she's not obligated in the least.

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Submitted by farting_glitter on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:08am

she already has a gag order...Eddies' dick in her mouth is her gag order.... Wink

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Submitted by askYOURdad on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:13am

This might be an ignorant question, but how do they calculate support if the NCP is a SAHM (or dad I guess) and the step parent is the main breadwinner for the household?

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Submitted by stormabruin on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:17am

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Submitted by askYOURdad on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:18am

That was the point of my question. If there are no circumstances where Step parents income is calculated than like hell I want to see LeAnn responsible for these kits.

I still think she and her husband are pieces of shit and I feel terrible that their dirty laundry is aired, those poor kids!

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Submitted by queenofthedamned on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 9:59am

Amen!

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Submitted by queenofthedamned on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 9:48am

She should have to support her children, regardless of how the marriage ended. Women cheat all the time, destroying their own marriages, and the men don't get a pass on CS. Why should she?

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Submitted by farting_glitter on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:09am

i know right...if that's the case, i should have cheated on DH a long damn time ago...i have been put through hell and still havent cheated...even though i probably should... }:)

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Submitted by msg1986 on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 9:52am

What about the Bm's on here that cheated and left, does that mean everyones Dh's here shouldn't have to pay child support?

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Submitted by farting_glitter on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 9:46am

sounds like Eddie needs to get a fucking job...he just mooches off her money anyways

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Submitted by msg1986 on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 9:55am

Omg, I feel that same way about the social media thing. I seen how she puts pics up of them on her social media things or whatever... I don't like that.

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Submitted by farting_glitter on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 9:48am

fucking Amen Stepaside!!!!!!...Leann is a classic jealous SM....crazy SM....crazy crazy crazy....bat shit crazy SM.....

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Submitted by Bio-Step-Mom on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 11:53am

So if my ex got custody of our two kids and his wife considered herself their mom, I would be absolved of any financial support to them?

What about my kids calling my husband dad? Does that mean my ex no longer owes me the $75K in CS arrears?? Cause he might like that :jawdrop:

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Submitted by msg1986 on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 9:58am

I wonder that too about why isn't she the full custodial parent, don't they usually give to mom?

I heard that she is writing or wrote some book, idk and put some stuff in their about him and so he's pushing back by doing the child support thing. I almost feel like a loser for even knowing about this stuff, lol. I'm maternity leave until June so I've been watching a lot of daytime talk tv.

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Submitted by askYOURdad on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:43am

ugh I agree. Seems a lot like they are just fueling the drama... probably all for publicity. So sad. I wish those kids could go live with anyone other than these idiots!

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Submitted by FTMandSM on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 9:55am

I'm confused..lol. LeAnn (the SM) and Eddie are married. Eddie is going after his BM for child support. Media is say 'No way, she's (eddies ex) a woman.'

If this is the case, this is BS. Whoever is the NCP should have to pay child support. I hate the fact that we have to pay it BM, but I don't think gender should come into play when deciding who has to pay it. If you are the NCP you are going to have to pay up. Is it always fair, HELL NO!!!! The new Sparents income should NOT be a factor.

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Submitted by farting_glitter on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:19am

and I'm not one of those...i have 50/50..my exH makes way more than me..i didn't get CS...and I'm not bitter about it either..i don't need or want his money....

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Submitted by Pecanflower on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:06am

I totally agree that women should pay child support just as much as father's should. My SS11 lives with DH and I full time. His BM pays nothing because she is "disabled." Of course she is also homeless and a complete wreck of a human being. But if she could, I would so be making sure she pays child support.

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Submitted by farting_glitter on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:21am

jesus Christ ladies....these kids are NOT poor helpless starving children...they will survive without CS from either parent...FFS......

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Submitted by farting_glitter on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:30am

i agree that 50/50= no CS...hell i live that myself....no big deal there...and yes there are some BM's that SHOULD pay CS, especially those that left the marriage and kids behind...but if a spouse cheats and leaves, like Eddie did, then no, the BM shouldn't have to pay CS...

Eddie just needs to get a damn job and pay for his own damn kids when they are with him... Wink

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Submitted by farting_glitter on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:38am

they shouldn't...not sure where you got that from :? ....i just don't see where Brandi should have to pay Eddie CS in this case...he cheated..he left...and now he wants CS?????????....bastard needs to get a job...the end....

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Submitted by FTMandSM on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 10:36am

I think the main thing the OP was upset about was why shouldn't women have to pay child support. What does gender have to do with anything with CS?

I agree that if custody is 50/50 then there shouldn't be any support at all. And I do think that Eddie is going after his ex just to be a dick or for publicity reasons. Bad publicity is better than none.

But I think the OP was just referring to gender and CS.

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Submitted by msg1986 on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 12:49pm

Yep FTMandSM, my blog was more directed at the unfairness of how gender plays a role and that was only because what I was watching the person was saying eddie was disgusting or something like that for going after her because she was a woman... they didn't mention the cheating or anything like it, it was simply because she's a woman and they said that multiple times and was like "i don't like when men go after women for child support, you're a man, you need to support them."

Unfortunately this whole thought was sparked but eddie, leanne and brandy but yes i was just referring to gender and CS.

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 11:05am

I'm not sure why LR's income should be factored into a situation that is between her H and his exW. Hello? How many of us would be pissed if our income were factored into our H's child support or alimony.

We would shit granite if that happened.

ETA - Doesn't this make you want to punch people that have not been in our situations.

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Submitted by msg1986 on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 12:43pm

Am I reading this right??? So in these states Stepparents are responsible for support also?? Wow.. Thank Goodness NM isn't on that list. I'd divorce my husband before I ever had to pay his support for him, EFF that. crazy!

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Submitted by Ssamantha on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 2:54pm

I live in NJ. Does this mean since I help provide for my skids, I am entitled to the child support that BM never pays? Since they want to act like I'm a parent, then I need to get all parental rights.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 12:04pm

New York is on that list!!!!!

That is beyond crazy. Why should a SP be on the hook for a child he/she didn't create.

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Submitted by misSTEP on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 3:24pm

No matter the circumstances, child support is SUPPOSED to be for the CHILDREN. No matter if male or female custodial or male or female NON-custodial...no matter if the step parents are gazillionaires, no matter if the initial relationship (that created the child) broke up because one spouse was humping ANIMALS....

CHILD SUPPORT IS FOR THE CHILD AND BOTH PEOPLE WHO CREATED THAT CHILD SHOULD BE HELD FINANCIALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR THAT CHILD.

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Submitted by JustAgirl42 on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 6:47pm

Yep.

Doesn't matter who cheated on who.

I do think there shouldn't be any support when custody is 50/50, unless one has a very low income.

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Submitted by Journey1982 on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 8:01pm

Just read on the internet that "Brandi's first tweet stated Eddie was asking her for child support which is now been proven as a complete lie."