Biological Father accused me of molesting SD9.

YEP...unbelieveable. SD9 says that her grandmother (BF's mother) was trying to get her to lie and say that I touch her inappropriately. So SD9 claims she didn't say anything like that but Grandma runs to BF and tells him that I did. Of course this generates a whole incident and he goes balistic. Bla Bla Bla...later he chills because he spoke to his daughter himself...but he still defends his fucking mother saying: She's just doing her job! Bullshit. Trying to get a little girl to frame me as a sex offender is NOT HER FUCKING JOB. Anyone have a rock solid aliby I can use?

So fuckin pissed.

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w....t.....f.......

w....t.....f....... :jawdrop:

What did your wife say about

What did your wife say about this??

I'm sorry, I know this can be a mans' worst nightmare.

I know H used to worry Uberskank would pull this crap with him over their kid.

Well, make 'em all happy.

Well, make 'em all happy. Dump and run. Come on. Your BF believed that you molested his child? Seriously? If my partner for one second considered that as even within the realm of possibility without first deeply exploring every other more plausible explanation (such as attention seeking kids/meddling MIL's/crazy BM's/etc) and finding it the LAST only feasible choice I would leave them.

He might as well think you fuck the neighbors goat on youtube for extra cash, while stealing from the poor box and killing kittens for fun.

I'm the DH...my spouse is

I'm the DH...my spouse is BF's ex. It's their BD, my SD. The only thing that bothers me is that she isn't upset about this at all. She's just like, oh well...let it go. BULLSHIT. How do I "LET IT GO"!!!!!!!! There isn't enough whiskey in the house to "let this go"...

Yeah, my apologies I got that

Yeah, my apologies I got that after a few minutes, but in my opinion it changes nothing. Doesn't matter if you are the girlfriend, the boyfriend, or step dad. Its the fact that your partner believed such an egregious statement and thought you capable of it. Think on that- for a little while, she was thinking YOU DID IT. How could you ever trust her again?

No, she never believed

No, she never believed it...by BF I meant Biological Father. My SO's ex is the one that believed it. My girlfriend never believed it. She just didn't seem to be phased by the drama.

LET IT GO? If they pushed it

LET IT GO? If they pushed it far enough, you could have been arrested!! WHAT? Anybody evil enough to do this, will do it again. She's not upset that these ideas have been put in her child's head? That someone is brainwashing her child and disrespecting and endangering her husband?

There's no way in hell I would let this go.

I swear to god I want to burn

I swear to god I want to burn her fucking house down and beat BF into a fucking wheelchair. But of course if I do that, we would lose custody of the kids...

Time to walk away. No woman

Time to walk away. No woman is worth the damage an accusation like that can cause.

I'd be out. I've been crystal

I'd be out. I've been crystal clear with SO false allegations ever get uttered about me he hits the road right then and there. Worse that he defended his mother but what thinks you should just get over it! F that noise what level of respect it that?

THIS I had the same

THIS

I had the same conversation with DF. I'm not risking my career, license, pension. ..for anyone. I will never love a man enough to risk losing everything and being labeled a sex offender.

But my girl friend and I have

But my girl friend and I have a child together, I can't just pull out of this relationship. But how to I handle it short of the unconventional illegal ways? There is nothing I can do legally...I can only be a victim of this hearsay. I feel like I'm basically trapped.

Exactly, she is "broken in"

Exactly, she is "broken in" as far as the "family bullshit" goes...but I'm not! And I'm a fighter! I can't see any way where this ends with me rolling over and taking it on the chin with a grin. I'm half italian! There's red passion in my veins. I don't like getting fucked, and I don't let people get away with fucking me.

Thank you. I appreciate the

Thank you. I appreciate the thought. And that is the same advice the lawyer I called told me. I need to start a journal of all my interactions with her and basically NEVER be alone with her.

I agree

Maybe you can't "just" pull

Maybe you can't "just" pull out...that's true. But it's time for you to form a strategy...an exit strategy. The fact that your GF seems "un-phased" by all this, and didn't really get ripsh*t angry at Grandma over this seems...disconcerting. You have to wonder. Why is she not so concerned? Maybe she knows Granny is a nutcase...and that this kind of behavior is to be expected...but that tells you something...that this kind of behavior, is to be expected. Nothing predicts future behavior better than past behavior. So what that means to you is...something like this...could happen again? I don't know. You should be pissed. But try to stay calm and think through this rationally. Anyone THAT spiteful - THAT crazy - to USE A CHILD - to get revenge on YOU - is dangerous. You don't need any of this drama in your life.

Try to maybe speak to a lawyer...you know...pro bono. I'm sure these cases aren't THAT uncommon - there are plenty of nutjobs out there. But think about how you can start your life anew - without GF. She sounds too embroiled, enmeshed in this extremely dysfunctional family for you to even go to battle with her.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. It's everyone's worst nightmare - but you do have options. Don't let them make a victim out of you.

I meant so I could kill him

I meant so I could kill him and his mother. Not so I could get away with the accusations. Just very upset.

Is there any way that you can

Is there any way that you can get this incident recorded by a professional? I don't know the extent of CPS's remit but could you get them involved? or could you take SD to a therapist and get them to discuss the issue (and keep notes on it)? or perhaps file some sort of legal attack against the grandmother? I don't know how you go about it, but I would have thought that getting this acknowledged and on record by someone outside of the family(s) is a good way to get evidence that this happened and was a false accusation, should something similar happen again. I know that getting authorities involved may be scary as you will be undoubtedly questioned yourself, but it seems like the evidence would soon point to the grandma and then you will have the incident on record and the grandma would know that she can't scare you into silence by throwing around false accusations. Your SO may object, but this is a matter of protecting your innocence and reputation and in reality isn't her decision.

I like this idea too -

I like this idea too - document, document, document. What Granny did IS child abuse. If you can get that on paper in can only benefit you in the end.

I wanted to do that...the

I wanted to do that...the lawyer told me I should...but my girlfriend told me "she didn't want to put the kids thru that"...UGH

Yep I've had that, got told

Yep I've had that, got told by my husband not to call the cops when BM assaulted me in my own home in front of her daughter. I called them anyway, true I didn't press charges, but there is a police incident report, should I ever need to call apon it for evidence in the future. You need to try to think this through in the long run. If you end up getting accused again in the future and it sticks, then you could be prevented from seeing your own child, and it would break up your family ...how would the kids cope with that? Perhaps the therapist route would be the least distressing for the child? It must all be quite confusing/distressing for her anyway, so talking it through with someone wouldn't be a bad idea. I firmly believe in using the law and showing children that grown-ups are accountable for their actions and cannot scare us into inaction. Obviously getting your GF on board with whatever route you decide to take is ideal, but ultimately it is not up to her.

AGREED - I was going to post

AGREED - I was going to post my own comment about getting that lawyer you consulted to send a letter to evil Grandma, BF, your wife and SD9 (yes, even the kid - maybe not a letter though, maybe bring her to a police station and have a cop discuss with her)

The letter should say: 1. Recently allegations of criminal acts were made. 2. These allegations were based on statements later admitted to have been coerced from minor SD9. 3. This is slander. 4. The procedure to follow if criminal activity is suspected is to contact the police. 5. Future false allegations will be subject to legal action. 6. Future coercion of minor SD9 will be subject to legal action.

You need to hit back and hit hard. And never be alone with SD9 again.

Please never again be alone

Please never again be alone with them again. I understand your position however I recently lost a friend who was locked up for that very crime and he didn't do it. His own kids later admitted that it was a lie but my friend died before he could even go back to court. Now if you have a clean record, its in your favor should anything ever go down but please be extra careful around those kind of people.

Honestly....I now want to

Honestly....I now want to beat your girl-friend's ass over her lack of concern.

Does she not get in these situations, men are considered guilty until proven innocent? That it's automatically assumed the child is being truthful? And even if you are proven innocent, it will still wreck your career, credit, relationships, etc.

She? Needs to pull her head of her ass.

Straight away suggestion, based on her lack of response> I would no longer be left alone with her kids.

Document this. You could

Document this. You could notify the authorities about her lie. They could investigate her and SHE could pay a hefty fine, do time or both for telling that lie.

I'm sorry this happened to you.

SO JUST TO BE CLEAR...pulling

SO JUST TO BE CLEAR...pulling out my shotgun and stuffing it in his face wont solve this problem...

Just kidding...I know it wont.

You're not trapped. Leaving

You're not trapped. Leaving your GF doesn't mean you're leaving your child.

If the next lie sticks, you won't see your child while you're in jail. IF you make it out of jail, how will you support your daughter? Most employers aren't excited about hiring sex offenders. Where will you live? Are you willing to miss out on being involved in your daughter's school and extra curricular activities?

OP, you really need think long and hard about this.

^^^This^^^

But we all know if he leaves

But we all know if he leaves he can say goodbye to being able to have a say in his child's life. If his gf is this bat shit crazy now she will be worse when we leaves. And most courts will take up for the mom until she murders them or shoots then up with crack.

EXACTLY!

THE SICKEST THING IS HE IS

THE SICKEST THING IS HE IS THE ONE LETTING HIS 9YO DAUGHTER SHARE A BED WITH HIM! IF ANYONE IS MOLESTING THIS CHILD ITS HIM. HE WAS MOLESTED AS A CHILD BECAUSE HOLIER THEN THOU GRANDMA DROPPED HIM OFF FOR DAYCARE AT SOME SHADY ASS PLACE AND HE WAS MOLESTED. ISN'T IT TRUE THAT CHILDREN THAT WERE MOLESTED HAVE A HIGHER CHANCE OF MOLESTING CHILDREN AS ADULTS?