True is....im not even married to what I call my spouse...im divorced from my first marriage. ..and have lived with what I call my spouse for eight years having to children by him...I truely love him...I totally have faith we can get threw all our blended family issues...but in reality hes still married...been going threw his divorced, but not finalized..only filed cause I did the paperwork...but he needs to go get the district attorneys signature stating that he has no child support order...and he wont do it...how ever many years no ambition...I feel maybe marriage is not what wants just to be together...not sure...but in his defense he doesnt do any paperwork, he relies on me to do everything..as a stay at home mom, maybe its my job, obligation....with all the issues arising digs me into deeper tbought of how strong his love really is..its very hard to communicate anything with him...I get no words out and when I do they are shut down...never taken into consideration....sorry to vent but it feels like therapy and reading commits opens my eyes in a wider perspective....but the divorce thing really bothers me..whats the ties or reasoning...