My Rant about the Golden Child!
No favorites! Yeah right!
So tonight we had SD15 and SD13 over for dinner. She is the last child to finish eating and put her plate in the sink. I enter the kitchen after her and DH is following me. I point to the sink where her plate with peas was placed on an angle on top of other plates, causing the peas to spill around the sink. There is a lip around the sink which contained most of the spill.
DH reaction - Well, who was the last one to eat? (We both know SD15 was the last one to finish eating)
I can hear DH's mind turning, trying to figure out who else to blame for SD15's plate. He calls all the kids into the kitchen and says whose plate is this? (Cause they will confess to it, right?)
I say to BS14 -You were the first to finish eating? BS14 comes into the kitchen and says yeah, and I ate all my peas.
I dont say anything, knowing what is coming. I know DS14 did eat all his peas. I know SD13 ate all her peas. I know whose plate it is - SD15 or the golden child.
DH can't possibly blame the golden child. So he says to ALL the kids - ALL of YOU see this? This is unacceptable! I dont ever want to see this again!
The kids leave and I tell him that the plate on top had peas on it which rolled off the plate and around the sink. He starts debating how could that have happened? I said softly -Gravity.
He says no way! Inertia would have caused the peas to go to the right of the fork and not around the fork. I am dumb founded and dont say a word but continue cleaning up the kitchen.
~ Really, DH?? You have to come up with a scientific explanation as to how PEAS found the lowest spot on the sink when the dish was placed in the sink , on an angle???? And then yell at ALL the kids not to do something that SD15 just did? All because he can't hold her responsible for her actions!~
Then he says, I know you are not happy with the way I handled it. I just tell him Whatever, you handled it. Then start mumbling to myself, Cause we can't hold her accountable for her actions and I can't voice a negative word about anything she does. He hears me and says what did you say? I just tell him nothing.
I'm just tired of it...And now her Bday is this weekend. Where he will want to give her money that we dont have...Luckily I have been able to tell him that what we do for one kid, we have to do for the other kids, and not at the expense of our budget! Amazingly, he agreed. Usually, he tries to find a way to benefit SD15 over the other kids. KIDS see special treatment. And they don't forget it !
OK RANT OVER!
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Thats BS, would he have done
Thats BS, would he have done the same if it was SD 13? I can't stand favoritism, it does nothing but hurt the kids.
Nope. He would not have done
Nope. He would not have done the same thing...He has NO problem yelling at any of the kids...EXCEPT Golden Child. He has no clue how SD13 is going to resent him for this.
The funny thing is that BM does the same thing, favoring SD15 over SD13. She is just MUCH worse. She once gave SD13 a used phone for her BIG Xmas gift, while SD15 got a new phone. And yes, BM got a new phone too..Of course, SD13 will claim that didn't happen. But I remember even if she chooses to forget.
I had done that in the past.
I had done that in the past. However, SD13 has taken to repeating everything I say to BM so I am super cautious about everything I say in front of her..So SD13's loyalty to her BM has caused her to lose the one person in her corner.....
Why does everyone favor her?
Why does everyone favor her? Normally it's the baby of the family that gets "precious" status.
Everyone, except me, favors
Everyone, except me, favors SD15 bacause she was the FIRST GRANDCHILD!
Thats ridiculous, and they
Thats ridiculous, and they both need to cut it out now. Are both of the kids biologically his ? Is there something about SD13 ? SD is going to really resent him and end up having issues. I always resented my mother for favoriting (is that a word) my brother ?
Both kids are his
Both kids are his biologically. SD13 looks like her dad. SD15 looks like her mom.
Yes, I agree SD13 will learn to resent DH and BM when she gets older. Right now, SD13 does anything for BM to spend time with her...
Yes, I see it so
Yes, I see it so clearly....SD13 will bend over backwards for the smallest morsel of attention from BM. She even takes her BM's tone of voice when talking to her father...
...Meanwhile SD15 will benefit from everything BM does....
I'll just wait for the train wreck...
Your DH is being an
Your DH is being an insenstive jerk to all the other kids.
What the frig is so damned special about SD15 that she has to be treated with kid gloves? Does he want her to grow up with no social skills? No consideration of others? To be an absolutely lazy, dirty, ingrate? If so, he's doing a swell job of it!!
Tell your DH that he is treating SD15 as though she were in the relationship with him - he should be guiding and teaching her - NOT making stupid excuses for her.
Honestly, I would absolutely refuse to do ANYTHING for SD15 from here on - get DH to clean up after her, while you focus on SD13 and your kids.
Honestly, men like this make me want to friggin' commit hari kari on them!
I am in the disengaging stage
I am in the disengaging stage with both SDs. They are teenagers so I dont clean up after them.
I can't say ONE negative word about SD15....So I say nothing about her.
I dont offer my opinion about anything at all.
I believe that you reap what you sow....And he will reap what he sows one day.
Same thing with SS14 and
Same thing with SS14 and FauxSS9. BM so obviously favors Faux, her "love child" with her "soulmate." This kid can do absolutely no wrong. SS14 exists only to wait on him (literally) and cater to his every whim. It's sick. SS14 really doesn't have any kind of relationship with Faux. I doubt they'll have anything to do with each other once they're adults.
Thanks for all the comments!
Thanks for all the comments! Sorry it took so long to respond...
Surprisingly, when we gave SD15 her Bday gift (nothing big) last weekend, she thanked BOTH of us. And I even got a hug. :?