If you are having doubts
Don’t disregard them

If one of the major components of your relationship has the potential to make you unhappy
It will

If you are anticipating the day when BM will change for the better
She won’t

If you think love will get you through this
It doesn’t

If you are hopeful that you will grow to feel differently about someone else’s child with time
You are a delusional person with good intentions

Do you desperately want to salvage what’s worthwhile in your relationship?
You should resent being in a position to have to salvage.

You think your blended household will be different?
We all did

Is every blended family unsuccessful? Probably not. Still, do you want to gamble with your life? Your future? The lives of those you love?

Being a childless stepmom once had me convinced me that people with kids should only pursue relationships with others who have children of their own. Now, after hearing so many horror stories on here from biological parents whose blended families instead of making them feel whole, brought them a new level of misery.

I really don’t know what the answer is. Find a way to work things out with the person you have children with? Remain a single parent? I just don’t know anymore. What I do know, is the warning I stated above and I hope you take it to heart.

This will probably fall on deaf ears. I wouldn’t have accepted hearing it. I was too much in love. Love has a way of making you blind to what’s right in front of your face. If only love could prevent you from facing harmful reality forever, instead of temporarily.