Hello All,
I am a fairly new step-mom. I married my husband in less than a year and everything was great until we started getting my SD week by week (a week with us then a week with her mom). Everything turned to shit after that, oh and I'm almost 11 weeks pregnant, if that helps! The week's we don't have the SD, everything is fine, but the weeks we do are horrible. SD ignores me when I talk to her sometimes, she's a slob when it comes to her room. I'm just so overwhelmed, oh and she told her grandma that i yell at her all the time (well if she would just freaking listen to me) so i feel horrible. My husband and I are currently fighting and always do the weeks we have SD. He thinks I pick on her and "micro-manage" her all the time, like always picking on her for everything she does. I just feel like she should know right from wrong and there are only a few major rules in the house for her which are to keep her room somewhat clean until the night before she goes home then it gets cleaned entirely, no attitude, brushing hair, brushing teeth, no eating or drinking in SD room or living room, ipod has time limit, and no crazy crafts in her room such as painting or gluing things (can be done in kitchen, easier clean up) Other than that she can pretty much play with what she wants and do as she wants witin limits, but I constantly have to yell at her and make sure she's ok or not doing something she's not supposed to b/c her father is in his own zone half the time and doesn't pay attention.
Here's some background for ya: Husband has been married two times, I am the third wife. His first wife died, but was pregnant with someone else's child. Second wife is SD's mom and cheated on him as well. Said wife and husband moved alot b.c they got evicted alot and lived like bums, Ex-wife still does. now mind you my husband is a good dad, never gave up on his daughter, but i can't live with two ungrateful people who have no respect for me or what i do for them. i'm ready to explode and im so emotional, pregnancy doesnt help.