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Living with SKids is like.....

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Submitted by furkidsforme on Sun, 09/29/2013 - 8:39am

Living with SKids is like having a really bad roommate that you can't say anything to because their rich family member owns the house you are renting.

I am so sick of picking up other people's fucking trash, but if I complain to DH or chastise the kids I get my head ripped off.

But if I had birthed them, I would be able to say something to them. WTF?

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Submitted by Dolphin on Sun, 09/29/2013 - 9:03am

I don't know if I could just let stuff pile up so I would probably clean... But another poster on ST said she tells her SK either pick up yourselves or she is throwing it away! I bet a few favorite items end up in the garbage and they will start picking up after themselves!

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Submitted by Dolphin on Sun, 09/29/2013 - 9:03am

I don't know if I could just let stuff pile up so I would probably clean... But another poster on ST said she tells her SK either pick up yourselves or she is throwing it away! I bet a few favorite items end up in the garbage and they will start picking up after themselves!

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Sun, 09/29/2013 - 9:46am

So your Dh is quite fine with allowing his children to be lazy dirty brats? Wow. I guess this is where DH then hires a maid to clean up after the kids (or does it himself). I'm not a maid and I don't leave messes piling up. I couldn't tolerate being treated with so little regard in my own home, nor living amongst their dirty habits. Dh's choices 1)teach kid to pick up after themselves 2)hire wife a maid 3)clean up after his own kids 4) watch me pick it up and see if the items are ever to be 'found' again 5)watch me pack my bags and move into my own nice clean place. I don't expect perfection, but I'd not tolerate lazy dirty kids and unkept conditions either.

By snapping your head off every time you ask the kids to clean up after themselves he is enabling and encouraging their disrespectful behavior. The more DH squeals at you the more the children will defy not only you but everything in your home. And they'll take these lessons and habits on into adulthood. These kids are going to grow up one day and move out, what future SO/spouse is going to want a person who is a lazy slob. Does Dh want these kids living with him at age 30 because they have been taught to be lazy helpless disrespectable brats who can't function out in the world?

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Submitted by ifonly on Sun, 09/29/2013 - 11:19am

Yes! That's exactly what my skids are like!
It drives me totally insane. But I have just made it a rule - I pay a maid Once a week to clean and iron, but the dishes, I do them Only twice a week, how and if they get done the other days I don't care.
I happen to be lucky that my SO is a bit ocd when it comes to dirty dishes and he happens to wake up at 4h30am every day and then gets bored and does the dishes!!
I just make sure to sleep past 8 on weekends (just to give him all the time he needs)
IMO if your man will not help you, or Parent his kids, And he takes your head of if you tell them something, then just calmly inform him over dinner that you have started shopping for a maid for 5 days a week - as this is what YOU need in order to keep the peace in your and his relationship.(That's what I did, and when he tried to say we couldn't afford it, I said I couldn't afford to go insane)