Dear BM: Get a life and stop telling my husband and I how to run our home!
I swear, I can only ignore so many of the emails from you telling me what food I should feed the kids while they're with us 4 days a week. Who the hell do you think you are to send me a "menu" ? You're right they are your kids, I didn't give birth to them but you know what? For the past 3 plus years, I see them and spend more time with them each week than you. I know what they like and don't like. I'm not an idiot, I know how to take care of them! Why is it that you always justify your demands by saying you're their mother. So what? You're their mother but my husband is their father and he's a dam good father. You don't see him emailing you about what you should feed the kids do you? I am not a cook or a housekeeper employed by you to take care of your kids therefore you have no rights to send me menus. No one outside of my household has the right to tell me what I should make for dinner!
What gets to me is that you send those emails about what not to feed them and yet, whenever SS6 comes back from your house he's constipated as heck! Is it the cheese and crackers you put in his lunchbox when he's with you? Or maybe it's all the sweets you give him? Maybe it's the fact that the only thing you feed the children are chicken nuggets, french fries and cheese quesadilla. Oh I forgot at least yesterday you put a few slices of apples in his lunchbox.
Newsflash BM, unlike you, I know how to prepare healthy meals for my family. I do care about my health and what goes in my body. Back off! stop trying to control me, my husband and our household. I understand you have plenty of free time since you refuse to work for living but on the other hand DH and I both work full time, we are getting ready for our baby, we're busy taking care of the Skids(sometimes on your days because you choose not to take your kids on your parental time) and we have lives-which leaves us no time for your control games.
And stop keeping the new shoes we buy the kids and then when DH asks you to return them, you bitch about how you kept the shoes because they have no arch support. What a lame excuse? I'm so tired of you sending the kids back in old/ripped clothes or shoes and keep the ones we buy and then say it's too big for them or they didn't like it. If the clothes we buy are too big and you don't want to dress them in it, just freaking send it back to us, don't keep it!
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stop sending them in nice
stop sending them in nice clothes and new shoes. send them back to her in whatever she sent them in. if the shoes are a huge problem, take their shoes off at the door and tell her to get her own, you're tired of buying new shoes every week. we basically had to do that with SD8's BM - she keeps EVERYTHING that goes to her. including homework, it never comes back from her house. well, her parent's house, since she lives with mommy and daddy again...
can you just block her emails? then you never have to worry about her meddling again.
IF BM ever sent a menu for us
IF BM ever sent a menu for us to follow for the skids I'd have absolutely no problem telling her to pack a bag of food for them while they are at our house. SMDH!
Thank you for reminding me
Thank you for reminding me that I have no responsibility to this woman.
For years I kept my distance and avoided interaction with her. But a few months ago, she swore to DH that things will be different and she wants us to be able to communicate for the sake of the kids. I thought why not, she's still not allowed to come into my house but since the kids are in my care 4 to 5 days a week, if I were a mother I would like to be able to communicate with the person my kids are around. That was a giant mistake. I should have known better!
That woman has some nerves I tell ya. In the last two weeks alone she demanded I not attend the kids school events, she told DH that I should keep the kids with me during my maternity leave instead of them going to daycare after school, and emailed the menu of what I am to feed them for breakfast/lunch/dinner every day. There were a few little things here and there too but those are the major ones.
God I read this and thought
God I read this and thought 'if I were a BM I would totally stress about what DH would feed the children!', he has no clue about diet and nutrition!
In our case DH loves to cook
In our case DH loves to cook and he's an excellent cook. I'm also very health conscious and prefer to make most things from scratch using fresh ingredients. When DH and BM were "together", he was the one cooking otherwise they would just eat junk. They've been divorced for almost 5 years now and BM has no reason to stress over what DH or I would feed the kids. She's just trying to be a control freak.
While ignoring it probably
While ignoring it probably the way to go, I'd send an invoice from what ever item she wants you to feed the kids, items she kept, etc. At least you would feel better & she would be the one to explode. }:)