What do you think?
Scenario...Say your kid or skid (20 year old) lives at home and works 45 hours a week and takes more than a full load of college classes.
Typical week is as follows.... 4 days a week they have college and work on the same day. They leave the house around 7AM and get home around 11PM. Two days a week are double shifts at work. That means leave the house around 11AM and get home around 11PM. 1 day a week they work 1 shift at work...leave house around 11AM and off at 4:00PM.
This is a typical week. Sometimes it is a little more work and sometimes it is a little less work.
Besides keeping their room and bathroom clean, do you think they should have other chores at the house? If so..what chores would you allocate to this person?
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I would cut my kid a break.
I would cut my kid a break. Clean up what you mess up. I wouldn't want a chore to keep their grades down & prolong their stay at my house! Lol. With that schedule it's got to be hard to find study time.
Take out the garbage and do
Take out the garbage and do your own dishes & laundry. That's it.
I would probably leave it at
I would probably leave it at that. Room and bathroom.
Doesn't sound like they are home enough to be seriously contributing to mess anywhere else in the house. They sound like a responsible motivated kid so I would cut them slack where I could to help them along.
Any help you give now to ease
Any help you give now to ease that workload a little for the kid will pay off in the future with better grades, better jobs, and more earning potential. I would do all I could to help him/her be successful, whether it is providing food or helping with laundry, just to ensure that success and an end to living under my roof.
I would expect him/her to
I would expect him/her to clean up after him/herself. As long as they don't put a burden on the other members of the family due to their hectic schedule. The schedule is admirable though. It's a stark contrast to most skids who would be playing vid games in their parent's home or partying with no job and no end in site (well into their twenties)
This is my son. He is such a
This is my son. He is such a hard worker.
I also don't think he needs set chores either. BUT..gosh forbid that DH sees my son have a few hours to not do ANYTHING. He mentioned the other day that my son should mow the front yard from now on. I asked him when he expected son to mow due to his schedule. DH says..."well he gets home at 4:00 one day a week...he can do it then." :jawdrop:
I adamantly told him no. I sometimes can go almost 2 weeks without seeing my son due to his schedule. I am not going to ask him to do work around the house during that time. GAH.
Hell NO. Mowing the lawn is a
Hell NO. Mowing the lawn is a LOT of work and takes a LOT of time. Congrats for having a boy that is so driven and functional. God bless.
good for you! your son works
good for you! your son works his guts out. does dh work as much? I do, however think son should pay a little rent.
I would expect them to act
I would expect them to act like the other adults, if you mess it up clean it up, and everyone should wipe down the bathroom everytime they shower.
As long as they clean up
As long as they clean up after themselves, I would leave this kid the hell alone....He is doing what we want our bios and steps to do...
Wow, great job raising a
Wow, great job raising a productive human. My biod was the same way, worked full time and went to school. I just expected her to pick up after herself. That is a lot for anyone's plate.
She moved out to go to Grad school in DC. She still works full time, and is looking to buy a home soon. She will start her doctorate in January.
Smile and be happy... and yes, no extra work.
That is a great story
thanks for sharing!
Dh never went to college, did
Dh never went to college, did he? Clean up after himself and maybe the lawn occasionally. Your Ds is overloaded. That will eventually get old. Must leave him alone during fall and spring breaks. It's When he'll get caught up cause with that schedule things are going to get pushed back.
Dh needs to back way off.
Well you must have been super
Well you must have been super woman!
It is not that I don't think my son can't handle it. I just prefer him to NOT have to handle it. I want him to have some free time sometimes.
I can mow or here is a thought...DH cold mow. GASP!! We BOTH have TONS more free time than my son. Now if he was not so busy...sure...mow the lawn... but I won't have him do it at my house at the moment. I am usually mows the front lawn anyway. I always have. I LIKE IT.
And yes..he will start law school in a little over a year. He makes great grades, but he is trying to make better because he wants to go to a specific law school that is very hard to get in to.
My "dirty little secret"
My "dirty little secret" about how I could take 21 hours and work is that I was a math major. All tests were open book. Math is very, very easy for me. I never went to class or did homework - I just showed up for the tests and aced the courses.
I was the top math major at an ultra competitive major university. Sadly that's pretty much my only real aptitude.
>Scenario...Say your kid or
>Scenario...Say your kid or skid (20 year old) lives at home and works 45 hours a week and takes more than a full load of college classes. <
A full time job AND a full load of college course? That's pretty rough IMO. When I was in college I only knew two two or three people who did that (and unfortunately, they didn't last). If I was the SS20's father, I would suggest that they shorten their work hours. They are still living under my roof and don't have to worry about overhead (like rent and utilities) so I would suggest they reduce their hours and concentrate on their studies.
However, since this is a hypothetical situation, I would simply ask that they keep their rooms clean and to tidy up after themselves (i.e. when they finish their meals, they can bring their dishes to the sink).
so I would suggest they
so I would suggest they reduce their hours and concentrate on their studies.
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I have suggested this more than once to the boy! I thought he would burn out, but it is going on two years and he is still going strong.
The only bad thing that would happen if he cut his hours back at work is that DH would try to fill those hours up with house work or yard work. lol
Well, all I can tell you is
Well, all I can tell you is that should your SS make it through, his CV is going to be a cut above the rest.
HR: "He worked full time AND had a full college course load? Bring this lad in for an interview RIGHT NOW!"
Oh Draco...this is my son.
Oh Draco...this is my son. Not my SS. My SS keeps getting nearly kicked out of the military.
woop. My bad. Seriously
woop. My bad.
Seriously though, companies like mine (where the stress factor is very high) look at things like this.
Wow, I would trade you kids
Wow, I would trade you kids in a heartbeat. My SD18 just started college with two classes and work at about 15 hours a week and would complain to anyone who would listen that she was too busy to clean her own room and her own bathroom. Sounds like you have an amazing son and I think he does more than enough with everything on his plate.