I haven't been on for a while. I've been trying to keep a good attitude about my SK's and I found that this site was enabling me to some point to be negative. However, I found a lot of support here too and that's why I'm back.

I have two step kids, SD 11 and SS 15. They live with their mother in another state. To give you some background their Mom, and I use the word loosely, has put her kids and us through hell. Over an 8 yr. time frame there mom has been married 2 times, and has moved them 12 times. Putting the kids in new schools almost every semester. She is on her third marriage.

First, she put her daughter in a metal hospital without her father's permission, for three months. She did this so she would be out of her hair to move a new guy into a house that they got together. This was the first thing that took us to court for custody. - We Lost (the hospital is now in a major lawsuit for mistreating and over drugging their Patience which are children)

Second, her live in boyfriend was arrested for raping the teenage babysitter in their home. This was the second thing that took us to court. - We Lost

Third, she married her boyfriend just months after he was arrested. His court date is July 2nd, next week. This will be the third time we go back to court.
This "Mother" claims that her daughter was molested by her 2nd husband. (this claim was investigated and never proven) Yet she puts her in a house with a rapist makes sense right?

We've heard all sorts of stories from the kids from finding dirty pictures of the BF now husband on their mom's phone, to watching video's of their dear mother giving him a BJ. He has children of his own that he's only allowed supervised visits with and were removed from the home on an emergency basis the day he was arrested. Way to go justice system remove 3 and keep the other 2 there! We are in contact with the mother of these children and they've confirmed the stories told my my SD that she is treated poorly and yelled at constantly.

My SD has continued to act out and her latest venture was stealing a 500 dollar phone from a kids locker and being suspended for 2 weeks after she bragged about it and got caught. Leading me to believe she wanted to get caught for the attention.

Everyone agrees that the kids seem happier with us, people that have been around them in both house holds. The kids also agree and have told us that they want to live with us, SD especially.

Here is some background on my husband and I. Neither one of us have records, we've moved three times in 5 yrs. Once to a different state, then into a rental that we own, and then into a bigger house to accommodate our entire family to include his kids of course. Our kids are not in school yet. My husband is a police officer, and I have a very good career myself. We've had our bad times and we got through them and are now stronger than ever. I've had an issue with the SD and was at the point I couldn't even stand her, now I find myself missing her at times, and being loving to her when she's around. I really want them to be able to come live with us. I truly believe they would have a better life.

Here is what is set to happen on the 2nd. Our lawyer will be attending the SF's court date. (BTW the judge is the same as the one that did the custody case) If/When the SF is convicted and we know that he will be going to jail the judge will simply ask our lawyer to see him in his chambers to start the paperwork. Let's just pray that it's that easy, these kids have been through enough.

Sorry for the rant, some of it may not make since but I had to get my thoughts out.