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Submitted by just.his.wife on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 8:05am

Her father was honestly convinced she would choose abortion but that all changed Monday. Monday was her OB appointment and she heard the baby’s heartbeat. Estimate based off missed cycles has her due end of January/ Early Feb.

BIL/SIL have contacted an adoption attorney and so the girl’s father contacted an adoption agency here in town, advising mom and dad have already picked the couple to adopt the baby, they need help doing the paperwork for an open adoption.

DH, skid4, girlfriend, her dad, BIL and SIL (with attorney) have an appointments made with the agency scattered over the next several weeks to begin the process. The agency has therapists that work with them and DH signed skid4 up.

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Submitted by just.his.wife on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 8:11am

BIL is on his second marriage. His first wife had medical issues and docs stated if she got pregnant it would kill her. So at the age of 22ish, he had himself fixed. And he didn't make a deposit at the bank prior to doing so for future withdrawl if needed.

So by 26 he was divorced. By 30 remarried. And yes they want kids now. They tried a reversal and it didn't work so adoption was their next step.

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 8:55am

It seems like the absolute best choice for everyone in this very hard situation. I am so happy for your inlaws!

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 10:49am

This is really good news and I'm happy for your BIL and SIL. It's nice to see that something good came out of what could have been a horrible experience.

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Submitted by furkidsforme on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 12:32pm

Aren't they worried that later bm will grow up, rear her head and want her baby back?

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Submitted by just.his.wife on Thu, 06/13/2013 - 12:46pm

She can't. Adoption is for life. There is no canceling it. There is no getting the baby back. Granted at 18 the kid can seek out their adoptive parents. An open adoption here means the biological parents are guaranteed:

1) An annual picture of the child
2) That if they (the bio parents) keep the adoption agency updated with their current name and address, once the adopted child is 18, IF the child requests the information, the agency will provide it to the child.

They can be offered: contact with the child as the adoptive parents see fit. But it is not guaranteed. If the adoptive parents feel it is not in the childs best interests it simply stops. There is no way to fight it in court.