OMG! I am so sorry you are going through this. What a disgusting, selfish, ass.

You deserve better, and you will get through this. You changing the locks and putting his things in storage was a good idea, all though I wouldn't have been that nice.

Don't apologize. I'm sorry this happened to you. My DH has cheated on me as well. It hurts like hell. I am in therapy and hoping to someday feel strong enough to raise my boys without him. Right now I know I would be irrational and too angry and make things worse. If I found what you did, and got something too, then I would kick him out without a second thought. Good for you. The sooner he's gone, the sooner you can start healing. I hope to be there someday soon.

*HUGS*

I'm so sorry you're going through this! (((HUGS))). Especially cheating on you with BM. That's unforgivable. I'm so glad you're a strong woman, kicked his ass to the curb, and confronted his "friend." That anger will get you through! Believe me, I've done it, and it's a lot more useful to channel the anger rather than wallow in the hurt. Not that I'm discounting your pain AT ALL, I know it's a bitch, but you need to be a bitch too. Take the asshole for every penny you can get and leave with your head held high. You have all of here to support you, honey. The pain will fade in time, I promise.

I'm so sorry. But yet I am glad. Glad that you weren't with him longer than you were before you found out what a complete and total asshole he is. You are PISSED now...nail his ASS TO THE WALL

YOU did not deserve what he did. He is a sorry piece of shit. He has absolutely no excuse and no way to talk himself out of the trouble he is in now.

I'm sorry you are going through this hurt with a guy who probably doesn't even deserve to lick YOUR.......boots.

I feel very bad for you. Stand firm with this man. Do not take him back at the rate hes going the next something you get may not be curable. This is why women go postal on men. They can't keep it in their pants.

Oh holy Hell! I'm sooooooo sorry you're going through this. Definitely document everything for court and take his ass for everything you can.

I'm so sorry!

Wow. Putting his things in storage is the only irrational thing I see here. I would have dumped them, burned them, scattered them on the yard in a rainstorm, dropped useable things at the homeless shelter, sold them on Craigslist, etc. But paying to store his worthless shit? Nah. Wouldn't do it.

Go with your anger. Find a friend you can talk to though. I bet you have at least one friend who won't be surprised that you discovered he's a scumbag. I know my own girlfriend radar has gone off several times when my pals were dating creepoids who seemed oh so nice.

Call the good attorneys in your area for a consult and get going.

I'm truly sorry you are going through all of this and don't be ashamed, they were his actions and not yours. (((HUGS))) Keep moving forward one step at a time.

YOU are fine! HE'S a piece of S**T!! What a douche-bag.

I'm assuming you already got yourself tested. I'm glad you had the wherewithal to pack up his crap and change the locks! Good for you!

You are not irrational and you're a good person. I would keeps those pics (in a safety deposit box) to make sure he stays the hell away from you and doesn't pull any stunts with the divorce settlement.

This is nothing for YOU to be ashamed over. It is his doing. Look at poor Tiger Woods' wife - beautiful and lovely but with a husband who was horrible about chasing trashy other women. It was not her fault nor is it yours.

I will reiterate what I have said so many times no man should ever have any relationship with BM when he moves on to another marriage/relationship. It is too easy to tie one on for old times sake - especially if the guy is a dirt bag like yours.

There's an old saying "what's one more slice off a cut loaf" - when someone has slept with someone for sometimes years it's easy to just do it one more time if they still stay "close".

Gah! What a jackass! Don't feel bad and you aren't over reacting. In fact, I wouldn't have been so nice. His shit would be on the curb waiting for the trash guys to pick it up. I'm so sorry. This betrayal is hard to take - you will be OK. It's gonna hurt for a while, but get easier and easier. Remember, YOU ARE WORTH MORE!

We should form some sort of Step-Mother tar, feather and neuter league for this douche-bag.

Who's with me???

Holy! Chicks with D#cks??? Your husband is a fiend. I don't know what I'd do if I saw that kind of evidence. You did the very best thing & just thrown that man's stuff out & changed the locks. Good for you!!! Get a damn good pitbull of a divorce lawyer & take him to the cleaners. So sorry it happened to you.

irrational? slicing his throat could be viewed as irrational but even that would be a stretch for this entry

Spiteful bitch that I am, he doesnt happen to have a facebook page because if he did Id have some IT wizard at my house cracking his password and I would post those pictures all over his fb page in a minute. sometimes I scare myself

Spiteful bitch that I am, he doesnt happen to have a facebook page because if he did Id have some IT wizard at my house cracking his password and I would post those pictures all over his fb page in a minute. sometimes I scare myself

You aren't being irrational! Packing his shit for him and putting it nicely in storage is WAY nicer than he deserves! You didn't do anything wrong, this is all on him. I'm so sorry, my heart hurts for you. Use your anger and take him for everything.

you have nothing to be embarrassed about. what he has done is about HIM, not you. you are going to be normal and just be you again. he is sick. absolutely sick and disgusting and that is on him, not you. there is something wrong with him. he is unlikely to be able to be faithful to anyone based on what you've found out about him. he has deep seated insecurity issues. every day without him, you will get a little stronger and a little more back to yourself, until eventually, you don't give him a 2nd thought. i was in love with and wasted 4 years of my life on a habitual nasty cheater. when he cheated on me for the billionth time and i was just disgusted but not mad or hurt, that's how i knew i didn't love him anymore and that i was just done with him. you will get to a point where you can think about what dh has done and you will just think about what a sickening POS he is, but you won't hurt anymore.

i think you need to bring this all out in court. someone like that has no business having unsupervised visitations with your dd, you don't know who he will expose her to. get a dr report and lay it all out in court. i know it's hard, but just remember, he is the one who has a reason to be embarrassed, not you.

{{{{Hugs}}}}