SD20 is never going to grow up
Dh and I had a talk last night about her posting stuff solely to be hateful to me. In the past he has ALWAYS made excuses for her behavior, saying she just needed time to grow up, but I think now that she is 20 and is not getting ANY better, he is seeing this pipe dream of his may never happen.
In fact, her attention-seeking, stepmother bashing behavior has accelerated. She's also bashing DH, but I didn't bother telling him because he'd just make excuses. What 20-year-old cannot recognize their behavior is wrong and GROW UP? Um, SD at least.
DH is quite unhappy with her right now. He said, "I don't see why she keeps acting this way." I said, "Um, in the past you have always supported her right to act this way. So she figures it's the way to be. Obviously she's not going to grow up." He didn't say anything to that.
When DH confronted her, she said she was sorry she had hurt HIM, that was not her intention (it was to hurt ME), then she said she never meant HIM to see any of that (just all her friends/sympathizers), then she said WHY was he looking at her stuff in the first place? Um, it's public! You are airing your dirty laundry intentionally for everyone in the world to see.
Know what SD20 did after all of that? Posted that she'll be moving to another site where she will be implementing controls. That way she can still bash me and DH can't find out about it. Smoothe move. Way to own your part in the drama, NOT!
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Oh, I think she knows that
Oh, I think she knows that short of her committing homicide, DH will always support her financially. The best I can get him to commit to is that once she turns 21, he will back off on handing her money every time she sneezes or cries poor. In the meantime, she is using daddy's money to fund her tattoo obsession, her constant drinking, her Victoria's Secret addiction, her weekends partying with the boyfriend, her multiple (more than 10) parking tickets, her biweekly (or so) manicures and pedicures, her tanning obsession, etc.
Oh, she maintains that daddy
Oh, she maintains that daddy picked me over her. It was never a her or me situation. She is NOT my equal. So I am evil by evidently brainwashing him to pick me, while she is the victim. She LOVES to play the victim and I believe will do that her whole life. DH does his best to let all her bad behavior roll off his back. I am not that malleable, nor do I have the connection of her being my child that would even tempt me to excuse her bad behavior. So no, she thinks she can and wants to hurt me and she doesn't even consider how that affects DH.
Ever wanted to say, "He can't
Ever wanted to say, "He can't screw YOU so why would he pick you over ME?" }:)
You need to tell him
You need to tell him everything. Honestly, these guys need to be crushed by their children. That is the only way that they will hold them accountable for their behavior and maybe help these kids be better people in the long room. If no one ever calls you out on something you will never grow. Normal people change their behavior when it is pointed out to them. These kids needs serious come to jesus moments that only a parent can provide. Otherwise, they will continue to behave this way.
unfortunately, i don't think
unfortunately, i don't think she is going to change or have that "ah-ha" moment. I have a SD17, almost 18 and she is just awful about bashing me and airing our dirty laundry to anybody that will listen, but still thinks its ok to come to daaaaady when she needs something. i just think this generation of kids have been raised to be nothing but narcissistic and entitled. so frustrating and so heartbreaking. i completely understand how you feel.
^^^^This^^^^ I went through
^^^^This^^^^ I went through this with both SD's. They treated me like crap, told so many lies about me they couldn't even keep up with what they'd said, where they said it or to whom they said it to. It didn't matter, they pretty much destroyed me in the little town they lived in. DH moved to my town about 30 minutes away right before we got married. I had previously lived in the town they live in several years ago, so I still knew quite a few people. It's almost been six years and I still catch hell for stuff that never happened, things that were only lies that came out of their jealous, hateful, big mouths. When I do happen to run in to people that the SD's trashed me to, I do my damndest to prove them wrong but in small town America people tend to believe the worst and it's hard to repair the damage. I'm a firm believer in the disengagement route. It's saved my sanity, but it's also frustrating because it goes against my nature to not care.
Whatever happened to calling
Whatever happened to calling a friend to vent? That is better to me.
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