i really wish dh would take half a second to think before he reacts...
I was off work yesterday because bs3 had a stomach bug. I let everyone sleep in and took the skids to daycare (its vacation week for them) when we were all up. Spent my day with a baby who has a double ear infection and a preschooler who had projectile vomitting and waterfall diareah. Washing clothes, cleaning and disinfecting the entire house.
Went to get the skids from their respective e daycares (can't have them in the same daycare anymore since they fight so much) at 6. The baby fell asleep finally at 4oclock and I wanted to let him sleep as long as possible. As any mother with s sick baby knows, you don't wake a sleeping baby unless absolutely necessary. So at 530 I wake up my soundly sleeping little guy and load him and still ill bs3 in the car. SD decided to be a turd and not come to the front when called because she was playing. Took ten minutes and her being called by the daycare lady 5 times. So we got to SS a few minutes after 6. He decided to hit a kid at the daycare that day so I had a lecture from them about expected behavior.lovely.
dh calls on his break as we are driving home. Tell him about SS and SD. He then realizes that we are in the car and asks why I waited until 6 to get them. I responded with....why would I want to deal with this aggrivstion for a greater percentage of my day? "What aggrivation, they just watch TV in their rooms. That's fucked up that you leave them there til six"...." Funny how its fucked up for me, yet you never get the before six on your days off. Its not like you are waiting at the school at 2:15 on Mondays when you don't have work, no, you leave to get them for six."
He then tried to talk down to me for a few more minutes and convince me I am horrible to his kids when I busted out with " funny, how you say they are no trouble at all yet you were quick fast in a hurry to drive them to daycare on Monday even though you didn't have work and they didn't have school. And what time was is yesterday they you went to go get them? Oh yeah, you got them at 6. Don't expect me to do shit that you yourself don't even do."
Then he hung up on me.
Called me on his next break like nothing ever happened. Of coarse once he thought about it he realizes I'm completely right. Why can he ever think first so we don't have to go through the bullshit fight every time?
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Wow, he's being an ass.
Wow, he's being an ass. Point blank - they're HIS kids - HE can be responsible. Hell, you're already doing him a favor by taking them and picking them up from daycare. If it were me, I'd tell him HE can take them and pick them up!
Sounds to me like someone
Sounds to me like someone expects you to be raising his children for him. If I had to venture a guess, I think your DH is a bit of a misogynist who thinks this is YOUR job because you have a vagina and are less than he.
Cause thats men, my DH
Cause thats men, my DH constantly calls me on stuff that I do and he does the same exact thing. He is an excellent father to my BS's cause they are boys. He tried to tell me the other day "Its ok to punish them they won't hate you for it" and I said hmmm why dont we practice what we preach. He can't say a damn thing to SD21, she is like a 15 year old and has a child that she doesnt take care of.
I had a whole speach ready to
I had a whole speach ready to go for when he called me back....but I didn't get to use it since he didn't come at me again. But I'm saving it for the next time he decided to treat me like the hired help.
Most people would be greatful to have someone watch their kids for free 5 days a week while they work. Most people would be greatful to have someone that pays for a minimum of half of all the expenses for their kids. Not be indignant that they don't do more than even they the parent are willing to do.
Just this week I bought both SS and SD a new outfit. Found a great sale and got them each I really nice name brand outfit. I showed dh and he just nodded. I had to prod him and ask him if he liked them. He said yeah that they were really nice and to save them for their trip to mil this summer. Not a thank you for buying this for them
Sometimes I think he really is delusional enough to think that the skids are my kids too since we got married. In hxs mind it really seems like he believes that marrying him makes the skids and our bio sons the same to me. That just because I happy bend over backwards for my own kids and would give them my last breath with a smile on my face, that I have the same responsibility to the skids.