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How good enough for our bios was/is never good enough for SD19

Elizabeth's picture

DH just has no idea most days how many ways he can be an ass. We went and got a new (to us) car this weekend because I was in an accident and the previous vehicle, bought 10 years ago, was totaled. I mentioned in passing to DH how that, maybe, by the time BD9 is driving, this would be a good car for her to drive and how maybe then DH and I would be financially positioned to buy the "car of our dreams." This is a good car, nothing special, just reliable and fuel efficient and that is good enough for me for now, but just once I'd like to have the car I "want" rather than the one that is "good enough."

This led to a discussion about SD19, because when she turned 16 DH and I had three vehicles, the one that is now totaled, the one DH now drives, and a sedan neither one of us used. But you know what, it wasn't "good enough" in DH's opinion to let SD drive that one. Instead, he and BM got together and gave SD money to buy a car. We got into a stupid semantics argument because I mentioned how he and BM bought SD a car, and he said he didn't "buy her one," he just gave her money. Isn't that just splitting hairs. If you and the other parent cover the cost of the car, how is that not buying her one?

Anyway, here I am listening to him say how it will be good enough for BD9 to drive our car when she's old enough but SD HAD to have a car bought by her parents. Does he not GET how he sounds?

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Elizabeth's picture

Oh, DH will go to ANY lengths to justify the way he favors SD. She is and will remain the queen in DH's heart. I just hope our bios never figure that out.

bi's picture

sounds like he justifies crap the same way m exbf did. i moved when i was with him, and he was very fond of getting shitty with me all the time and saying "i got this place for you!" like i owed him something. i paid the security deposit and 5 months rent in advance on my own. i paid the rent and the bills after that on my own. he invited himself to move in, i did not ask him to nor did i want him to, but was too scared to tell him no. you know what he did that constituted getting that place for me? he picked up a paper one day and circled it. yup. that was his part in getting that place for me. never mind the shit ton of money i paid to be there and he never contributed a damn dime. he got it and i owed him because he circled it in the paper. :? he didn't even make the damn call, i did!

oldone's picture

A friend of mine dated a man with two skids. He had an old station wagon.

When they married and her skid who was a 16 year old male wanted to take HER car on dates as the old station wagon was not good enough. She was livid. It was good enough for her to be courted in but not for her stupid SS to drive.