See previous blog for the intro to this.

The visit between BM and SD9 went really well. We had BM come over to our house and spend hours for each of the three days of BM's visit with SD. All the visits were supervised by either FDH, me, or the both of us. I spent much more time with BM than FDH did since he works mostly on the weekends. BM was very respectful and we got along very well - I hope this continues! BM bought some groceries and made dinner one night and then bought a couple pizzas for lunch the next day. Even though BM was at our house (she had a hotel room to sleep at), we tried to give her and SD as much privacy as possible by letting them have the living room while we hung out in the guest room, etc. On the last day FDH and I even left BM and SD at the house for about 45mins while we ran to the grocery store. It was a mini-test, if you will, to see if BM would continue to act right, which she did.

I ended up adding BM to my FB friends; I normally wouldn't do this, but there is this new option called Face Time, which is really just like Skype, so now SD and BM can chat face-to-face. We are really trying to foster the relationship between SD and BM, though FDH and I (though mostly FDH) did have private convos with BM about how she needs to proceed to work towards getting to have SD one-on-one, and I reminded her that now that she's re-entered SD's life, she needs to stay here and not run off again. It had been a year and a half since BM had last seen SD, though they do talk on the phone.

I really hope this works out for the best. I'm all about being positive and cool to BM, as long as she continues to act the same to us. There is no reason at all why our relationship has to be nasty...and like I said, we got along quite well, chatted, shared some wine.

SD had a good time seeing her mom. I was worried about how SD would act after BM left, but she's been pretty good. The only difference is that she was more needy the next day, i.e. sitting really close to me, long hugs, etc. She's a good kid though, and she's young enough where BM can do a lot of work to repair the hurt and lost trust from the past.