Stay Klassy, SS11
Why is it that SS11 insists on stripping down to his boxers the second he hits the house and never putting clothes on again, even at meal times? I don't want to see all that. I've started telling him now at 11 that I don't want to see all that because it'll take him until he's 25 to actually listen, but apparently this is no big deal to DH. He tells him one time to go down and put some clothes on for meals, SS11 naturally pretends like DH doesn't even exist and does exactly what he wants to do, the end. Trying so hard not to care, but really? Some day this kid will hit puberty (hopefully soon because his screechy voice is super irritating and I need for it to deepen before I go deaf), and when it happens, I REALLY won't want to see all that. I will then begin to withold food from SS11 myself until he comes to the table dressed and I will adopt a "no shirt, no pants, no main floor" policy for the rest of the time. Am I off-base to think this is trashy, at least when it comes to being at the table?
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boxers? WTF? do you live in
boxers? WTF? do you live in the tropics? or on the sun? time to turn the thermostat to be a bit more chilly in the house - and oh he doesn't want to wear clothes for eating? tough shit. No clothing? No food. PERIOD.
And WTF? where did he pick up this habit? does you DH strut around nakey? I can see switching to shorts and a tee, or sweatpants - but good grief.
OR
You could start walking around in your underpants too (obviously nothing outrageous - decently covered - but still getting the point across) and see if he gets embarrassed?
seriously. WTF?
NO! We live in Colorado,
NO! We live in Colorado, that's the thing!!! DH DEFINITELY doesn't walk around in just his underwear, like, AT ALL, but he doesn't see it as being as much of a problem as I see it being, even though he's a little annoyed by it. It's not enough so that he'll actually DO something about it. This is a fairly new development, only in the last couple of months or so. I don't think he'd get embarrassed if I walked around in some boy shorts and a tank top or something like that, but I can't make myself do it because I think it would backfire somehow. But I DO like the idea of turning down the heat...especially since we're supposed to get a major cold front coming in starting tomorrow. It's only supposed to be 27 degrees on Sunday. Hmmmm.....
We have to be covered,
We have to be covered, especially for dinner.
Out of DH's two kids, my first step, and my 3 bios, it's the youngest (a girl) who has an issue with it.
She's an allstar cheerleader, so her "at home" clothes are a tank top and spankies. Her BROTHERS don't want to see that (neither does DH) so she needs to wear more for dinner.
Boys all must wear shirts. I don't want chest hair on my table. EWWWWW.
Can you stock SS with flannel pants or sweats? Boxers just don't... cover things.
No no no no no no! Must wear
No no no no no no! Must wear clothes. That's not right. ESPECIALLY at the dinner table. No clothes, no food, no way!
Well must be a boy thing! My
Well must be a boy thing! My bio son is like that minute he gets home from kindergarten clothes come off it took a bit when me and bf moved in together he has a daughter 6 but now he could care less but when she's here he's usually got at least shorts on. If not I tell him to get at least shorts on... LoL
I would turn down the heat.
I would turn down the heat. Ours is about 73 when we are home. At night it drops to 68. Why? Well it cuts down on heating costs and we both have a shitload of winter clothes we can wear. All I need to do is put on a henley or a long sleeved shirt and track pants. Feet cold? Socks or slippers.
Until you have lived in a country where no one has a furnace or played 'American Pioneer" for 12 months in the USA you have no concept of cold and hot. It also doesn't help when schools thermostats are set to 'balmy tropical breeze'. My SSons and Bios used to drag along winter coats and gloves and then strip down to tops and shorts in the middle of a Nebraska winter. What is the point? They hated carrying along those jackets because invariably their locker was 100 miles away form their classes and they didn't want to drag it around all day. So we compromised and they could leave it in the car for after school and just run out.
I would start with the thermostat. And hold dinner back for SS until he has a shirt and pants on. If DH complains then tell him if he feels so strongly try taking his son to McDonalds dressed like that and see if they serve him.
It is disrespectful of the women in the house. I grew up as one of 4 girls and our mother INSISTED we be appropriately dressed when Dad was around. Sure, the odd towel run after a shower to a bedroom but NEVER would we wander around in our underwear.
It may be something that DH is comfortable with. But remind him that in a year or so his son will be developing all kinds of weird puberty behaviours and growths. If that doesn't get to him tell him you are not looking forward to his son sitting down for dinner with a boner staring you in the face!
My heat is 64 during the day
My heat is 64 during the day - 62 at night. AC? 80 if I turn it on...
Which is why I suggested crank the thermostat down. Try running around in just undies in my house (I live in Northern IL)... You'll learn. Frostbite on weenies ain't nice!
LOL! Yeah, Colorado isn't
LOL! Yeah, Colorado isn't the coldest place I've ever lived, I've experienced Montana winter, too, but being as freezing Colorado is what he's used to, and also that I know how to layer really well, I guess having the house at just warm enough so the pipes don't burst would be the way to go.
Lucky for DH, this morning
Lucky for DH, this morning when SS11 tried to come to breakfast with no clothes on, he told him to go downstairs until he was dressed, and that he wasn't eating until his clothes were on. SS11 said no one time before DH was like, "Then you're not eating." I have a feeling this might not be as big a deal as I thought it might turn out to be, mostly because I outlined VERY clearly to DH that I would not allow him to walk around in his underwear, and that it WAS going to be a big deal for me, so he's going to wear clothes whether he likes it or not.